lonley
lonley 
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Posts: 1,634
Welcome jailer. Hang in there.
Do you have any favorite movies at your house that you haven't seen for a while? Reacquainting with some familiar characters while you continue to post here on SR might cheer you up until you feel well enough to reach out to some friends.
If you prefer faster interaction, SR has a chat area too.
Do you have any favorite movies at your house that you haven't seen for a while? Reacquainting with some familiar characters while you continue to post here on SR might cheer you up until you feel well enough to reach out to some friends.
If you prefer faster interaction, SR has a chat area too.
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Athens, Georgia
Posts: 962
Give it ALL up. Every D^MN bit of it. It SUCKS, but that is the last reality of addiction. Read the Big Book of AA...for real. You need to completely deconstruct..give up...surrender..to the pain...to the reality of addiction...to the hope of keeping it all together. Our BEST efforts in Addiction brought us to the point of surrender..or we kept going until we were later brought to a point of surrender. How LOW can you go? Is this far down enough? Hard questions that demand a hard answer. I realized my active addiction life had become unmanageable when life slammed me against a wall, then picked me up off the floor and screamed in my face...WHAT THE @#&* ARE YOU DOING!!!
However, many sober recovering addicts will tell you that after the complete surrender, and through a program of step-by-step rebuilding, a new life is possible. However, if the goal is to get back in the driver's seat..it will most likely be off to the races, down the same old track.
Give up completely, every D^MN thing, and LET your life be rebuilt on completely new principles, not of your own design.
Good Luck, and I KNOW it sucks.
However, many sober recovering addicts will tell you that after the complete surrender, and through a program of step-by-step rebuilding, a new life is possible. However, if the goal is to get back in the driver's seat..it will most likely be off to the races, down the same old track.
Give up completely, every D^MN thing, and LET your life be rebuilt on completely new principles, not of your own design.
Good Luck, and I KNOW it sucks.
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: New Iberia ,LA
Posts: 76
Hey jalier I'm on my 23 day sober and still waiting for my 'guy' to realize he can't live without me!!! Apparently he is doing fine without me and I am still alive and sober so I guess I can't ask for more right now. I understand what you are going through. It hurts and it SUCKS!!!!! I guess if he did not leave me I would never had the courage to leave to get help on my own. I know God has a plan for me. I have to trust.
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Newcastle, UK
Posts: 571
Sorry to hear that man, great advice above about watching a movie. At this stage, distracting yourself is a good remedy. I imagine for you sobeiety is key, it is for me (also day 1). We are all here for you, stay strong!
Beagle
Beagle
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,496
Day 1 is hard....but it's your new beginning. Sounds like things are pretty tough for you right now, but please be proud of yourself for taking this step into a new life.
You may be lonely....but you're not alone....we are all here for you.
Sending you love and hugs.
Venus
You may be lonely....but you're not alone....we are all here for you.
Sending you love and hugs.
Venus
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Liverpool, England
Posts: 681
Hi Jalier I was on day 1 on Friday and thanks solely to this site it's Sunday and I'm on day 3. Stay close and post whatever's on your mind, we're here for you. Watch a movie, eat some food and rest. This can be done and you can do it.
Take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Central America/Florida USA
Posts: 4,064
Real easy to get distracted and depressed when we think about ex-gfs or other challenging relationships. My gf left me also. She seems to be doing just fine a year later, though I have no contact with her.
Most therapists, rehab councilors, etc, recommend that you spend a year as a single person when you're in recovery. The thought process is that you need to focus 100% on yourself and your own issues. You cannot be a good fit for a partner if you are not healthy yourself. Maybe it's time to focus on that.
Do you have a plan to stay sober long term?
Most therapists, rehab councilors, etc, recommend that you spend a year as a single person when you're in recovery. The thought process is that you need to focus 100% on yourself and your own issues. You cannot be a good fit for a partner if you are not healthy yourself. Maybe it's time to focus on that.
Do you have a plan to stay sober long term?
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