artsoul

Welcome phebe and congratulations (two weeks sober now, right?)

I can totally relate to not "feeling" like an alcoholic. I had to remind myself many times a day for a while..... (hanging out around here always helped bring it into focus for me). Glad you're here!

Panache

Right back at you sweetheart!

Sazzle

Hi Phebe. Welcome to SR. Another Red Wine Hound here! I don't miss the sweating, stained teeth, rapid heartbeat, puffy face, swollen hands, lethargy and hormonal roller coaster. I wanted to offer you some hope as I'm 150 days without alcohol tomorrow. I'm amazed, happy and proud. Well done on your 13 days. That's a great achievement.

S x

phebe

YES!!!! Thank you so much!!!!

phebe

Sazzle.... on the eve of Your 150 day achievement, thank you so much for stopping by to offer me your Hope. That really meant a lot to me!

*tears of joy*

Nattythreads

Congrats on two weeks. Excellent stuff.

I can totally relate to the strain of living with a muso - or at least my wife would. I am one! I've been fortunate to do ok but there is no doubt I could've done better without drugs/alcohol. I got sucked in early on to the belief that it was impossible for me to be truly creative unless I was operating in some sort of parallel universe. I now know that to be a load of bollocks.......

Stay strong,

NT

phebe

Thanks Nattythreads!!

Funny thing is, my musician was totally clean, we both where... no alcohol, no drugs, and we were both vegans!! His creative 'juice' came from meditation, I also practiced as well.

To be blunt, it just came down to the basics...sex and money. We had neither! lol

And while they were some of the most Spiritually moving magical days for me, I just couldn't live like that anymore. Realistically, I needed a partner that contributed to the daily expenses of living and helped me carry the practical burdens of life.

And I wanted a relationship with a little nookie lol

Panache

Hahah amen sister! *high five*

phebe

*High Five!*

Woot!!!!

Nattythreads

Strangely that's been a casualty in my marriage. For some bizarre reason she became distinctly unimpressed with the idea of maintaining a physical relationship with someone capable of putting her through such emotional torment! Took me a while to get that one through my befuddled head......

phebe

I agree with your wife.... it's hard to hold the attraction when your husband is bent on negative distraction...

Our problem was that we chose a celibate relationship. Don't drop your jaw, but I did it for 13 years. 'Nuff said.