Its my identity...
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Its my identity...
Looked through my pics on Facebook and basically all 600 of them are me at parties or drunk other than maybe 10...
Also I am team captain/manager/organizer of a softball team called the bad news beers... Softball has been my passion the last few yrs
(Drink a ton at ball/tourneys)
Also beer t shirts and cups etc. that I have, should I through it all away/give it away?
Also I'm from a small town 250ppl how do I give up friends that I've been so close with for 19 yrs.
(These friends have been my drinking partners)
I'm sure somebody's dealt with this stuff so any input would help! Thanks guys!
Also I am team captain/manager/organizer of a softball team called the bad news beers... Softball has been my passion the last few yrs
(Drink a ton at ball/tourneys)
Also beer t shirts and cups etc. that I have, should I through it all away/give it away?
Also I'm from a small town 250ppl how do I give up friends that I've been so close with for 19 yrs.
(These friends have been my drinking partners)
I'm sure somebody's dealt with this stuff so any input would help! Thanks guys!
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That was/is me Brett. I was always the go-to guy if someone wanted to party when growing up and even after we were all growed up... I still have the same group of friends that I've known since grade school and have been drinking with since highschool...
Even at work I am/was that guy. I have to travel a ton for work with "teams" so we spend alot of time together on the road... If someone wanted to hit the hotel bar or any other bar I was always up for it...
Anyways, I'm only a couple of months into being sober, so I don't really have any solid advice to give you, but I figured it might do some good letting you know that you're not the only one who has been "that guy"... We can both do better...
Even at work I am/was that guy. I have to travel a ton for work with "teams" so we spend alot of time together on the road... If someone wanted to hit the hotel bar or any other bar I was always up for it...
Anyways, I'm only a couple of months into being sober, so I don't really have any solid advice to give you, but I figured it might do some good letting you know that you're not the only one who has been "that guy"... We can both do better...
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I don't want to try, I want to actually do it.
Honestly I can make friends with my drunk identity, but for the wrong reasons, I think they just felt comfortable around me because they could open up to me knowing that I couldn't judge them due to my drunken states. Or maybe it gives me a boost in confidence. Either way I really want to discover a sober, straight thinking, dependable, safe man inside myself.
Honestly I can make friends with my drunk identity, but for the wrong reasons, I think they just felt comfortable around me because they could open up to me knowing that I couldn't judge them due to my drunken states. Or maybe it gives me a boost in confidence. Either way I really want to discover a sober, straight thinking, dependable, safe man inside myself.
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It's very cool to make such a huge positive change and you can absolutely do it! I used to be that girl...but as I reframed myself as a non-drinker, people accepted me as such and to be honest most embraced me as such. ps I'm still quite capable of being the life of the party...don't need booze for that. You can too if you want to be. Actually, you can be whatever you choose when you give up the booze, because you are truly free to decide. Best to you on your journey.
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For me, most of my friends adjusted just fine once they got used to it. I find the only ones who have problems are those who question their own drinking habits. You do change as you gained more insight into yourself. But many things are still you, you just have to practice.
That's my best advice: you need practice becoming you again, learning to deal with things sober. It's a process, so don't be freaked out if it test time!
That's my best advice: you need practice becoming you again, learning to deal with things sober. It's a process, so don't be freaked out if it test time!
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Hi Brett11,
Boy that hit home with me. I've actually had Facebook messages from friends asking where last weeks drunk pictures are. Eeek
I don't think there is ever predicting how people are going to react when we change who we were. I just had to go for it and trust that they would like me anyway. Amazingly for me, they like me just as much if not more.
I don't want to look at my Facebook page 20 years from now and see nothing but pics of me and a martini.
Welcome to SR. Hope you find what you need here!
Boy that hit home with me. I've actually had Facebook messages from friends asking where last weeks drunk pictures are. Eeek
I don't think there is ever predicting how people are going to react when we change who we were. I just had to go for it and trust that they would like me anyway. Amazingly for me, they like me just as much if not more.
I don't want to look at my Facebook page 20 years from now and see nothing but pics of me and a martini.
Welcome to SR. Hope you find what you need here!
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Originally Posted by soberlicious 
It's very cool to make such a huge positive change and you can absolutely do it! I used to be that girl...but as I reframed myself as a non-drinker, people accepted me as such and to be honest most embraced me as such. ps I'm still quite capable of being the life of the party...don't need booze for that. You can too if you want to be. Actually, you can be whatever you choose when you give up the booze, because you are truly free to decide. Best to you on your journey.
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