Lizella

And stick to being sober?

deeker

Cuz lizella you have an illness. Maybe read about it or listen to this audio AA Big Book, It will help explain.

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Big Book Audio MP3

Anna

You can do it. And, most of us have thought we couldn't do it at one time or another. But, you can get through this.

T4texas

Everybody can do it we just all have to be in the right (or wrong) place. For some ,like me, it takes a bad or collection of bad moments to get there. For others it is just time. All I know if it is what you really want eventually it will stick.

hypochondriac

For me what failed before was letting doubt get to me. I think the phrase 'fake it til you make it' is very relevant to whatever method of recovery you choose. I had to ignore all the negative feelings and just keep plodding on the sober path. What do you think is pulling you back Lizella? x

MeSoSober

If it makes you feel any better, in Anne Fletcher's book Sober for Good, she writes that "One of the masters [the people with at least five years' sobriety whom she surveyed for the book] told me that they had seriously tried to solve their drinking problems at least three times before they were finally successful. (One in five tried to quit five or more times.)"

Fletcher also writes that "'don't give up' was one of the ten most frequent suggestions from the masters for people who want to quit drinking."

So it is not unusual to have to try and fail multiple times before you finally succeed in staying sober.

It's one of the reasons I chose the signature I did--to remind myself and others never to stop trying!

pluginjug

It's tough getting sober. I did revolving door recovery for a whole year. After being sober for 3 years, I relapsed. Yet, now I'm 1.5 months shy of being 10 years sober. I just kept at it and fortunately it finally stuck.

Keep at it. You can get sober.

FeenixxRising

You can. You're stronger than you think. We are all stronger than we think we are.

You may need help. If so it's out there, AA, Smart Recovery are two examples. Maybe you need detox and/or rehab? Maybe not. But as others have pointed out, just keep trying. You'll get there.

DoubleBarrel

You will either, get strong enough, or fed up enough to quit.
Or die.

Those are your choices.

I was ready to just keep drinking, until my health issues scared me so badly, that I literally could not keep drinking, and I could not stop, or so I thought.
It took me about six months of hell to stay quit, but now, Im so much better.

You CAN do it, but you have to be willing to change.

Nonsensical

It's not that you CAN'T. You just HAVEN'T YET.

It took me a long time (and many failures) to find a method that worked for me. Read around on the forums and ask questions about the methods people are using. You will find one that works for you, too.

Best of Luck!

2granddaughters

Likely because you are an alcoholic as described in AA's "How It Works".

I couldn't get sober and stay sober until I surrendered to Alcoholics Anonymous.

You might be just like me.

All the best.

Bob R

Mizzuno

Sometimes, its one step forward, and two steps back. Its not pretty, and its frightening to us in one way or another. Whatever you do, don't give up.

Lizella

Thank you all for your response. You've encouraged me to not give up

Dee74

I think for 15 years. I'm eternally grateful that somewhere in me I knew enough never to give up hope...and I got there in the end.

You can too lizella

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DisplacedGRITS

i sought the fellowship of AA and the guidance of a sponsor and the steps. i learned that i can't do it alone and you know what? i don't have to. it's not expected to me. just because i drove my car into a ditch doesn't mean the world expects me to get it out on my own. i'm turning to a Higher Power (learning to at least) and the fellowship of AA. i'd be sitting here three sheets to the wind if i was trying to do it alone. reach out and don't sit there thinking that you're alone in this disease. you have an obsession of the mind and an allergy of the body just like the rest of us. there is help and there is another way of living. there are lots of recovery methods out there. trying to power through it blindly isn't going to work. find a path that others have taken with success and go with that but don't go it alone.