notme1234

i drink because, well one big reason, is lack of kindness, for myself & others.

i see that others lack heart too.

drinking helps warm it up for me.

i need help for that.

is it against the rules to talk about love here?

i'm worrying about being banned for asking such a question.

unfortunately, some of the moderators may have to take a nap before they reply.

everyone else is welcome to respond.

thank you.

if i didn't nee help to quit drinking, i would not be here.
some people need to step away from here that have been sober too long.
especially in the newcomers area.

thanks,

i want to meet other newcomers.

thanks,

SoberForMySon

I drink because of fear

Joe Nerv

To meet girls.

grandma12

I drank because I was lonely and totaly lost over my Mom's death thats when i started to drink. Five years later and i was still lonely and lost, so figured I would stop drinking.

liss74

Took away any responsibility free!

Booniecat

I drank because it loved the feeling of getting high. I had lots of excuses why I drank such as being stressed, unhappy, bored, lonely... The real reason is the deep pleasure of getting drink. Once I faced that fact and could not use the other excuses, I began to see the self destructive element of my drinking and began making plans to change.

Fallow

I drink for the taste!

Oh, and because I am an alcoholic.

Dee74

I drank because I had a whole raft of things in my life I didn't want to face.
I thought alcohol would help - by the time I realised it didn't, I was in too deep to stop.

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Nonsensical

+1

YouRmySunshine

Us great Great Alcoholics have a never ending list of reasons, excuses, lies. We became very good at reasoning our way to the bottom of a bottle.

I just hope I can use those skills for something positive in my sober years to come!

sweepee

i drink because i like the comfortably numb feeling. i'm a homebody, have no friends...on the internet all the time, so i'm not totally isolated...generally not happy w/ my life

"if i didn't nee help to quit drinking, i would not be here.
some people need to step away from here that have been sober too long.
especially in the newcomers area."

kinda feel that way too....some seem quite self righteous ~ i've heard too put them on ignore.

i know i need to quit drinking...every day i stress over the damage it's doing ~ but i like it. so i usually post in the alcoholism forum ~ because actually i'm not new to recovery.

Dee74

What I really like about SR is the way other people who've been there stick around to help others through it too.

I was lost when I got here.

Doing things my way had nearly killed me.

I'm glad wiser heads than mine put up with me and patiently helped me along the way.

Sometimes it may not be what people want to hear, but I think it's good advice 99.99 % of the time sweepee.

D

avocado

to put it bluntly - because i liked getting F****D up on alcohol and all the crazy and fun stuff that often came as a result of doing so. When the negative financial, legal and psychological repercussions started stacking up it was no longer 'fun' enough for me to convince myself I wanted to keep drinking, so I've finally quit... for good.

HitRockBottom70

Dee,
I second that.
Sweetpea, When I signed up 9.5 months ago I was at my breaking point and ready to give up on life itself. Thankfully there were some wonderful people with months and years of sobriety online and in the newcomers forum that answered my questions and gave me hope. I am here and sober because of them.

To th OP, I drank to escape. I stopped because i could no longer control where I escaped to or for how long.

BillyWeaver

The numbness, the fun ( in the beginning )being able to 'forget all my stress /worries for a few hours...or days lol.

RobbyRobot

I drank to be anybody besides myself. I became a kind of bizarro superman with alcohol and my life became surreal enough for me not to have to care much about it. I drank as a solution to what was wrong with anything and everything in my world.

Of course in hindsight, I was completely fooled. Alcohol quickly took everything back and worse, I became seriously addicted with alcoholism and after that I drank to simply keep my own understanding of sanity even as it dissolved into unfortunately deep alcoholic insanity.

It took me years of hardships and crap to finally successfully quit.

Bigndfan175

= fear

Starbaby928

I drank to mask hurt & feel confident.

fallingtogether

I drank because I'm an alcoholic. That's all the reason I need.

wanderwoman

Hi there, I'm new here.

I started binge drinking with friends in high school. I have continued this pattern for most of my life, with breaks here and there. In my 30's I started drinking wine at home pretty regularly in the evenings and this is what I am trying to cease doing now.

When I really think about it, my self esteem has always been incredibly low. I never thought I was very capable of being ok in the world. I never thought the opposite sex would like me, always felt ugly and fat and like a freak. I have trouble believing I am worth anything. Somehow when I was younger, drinking helped to numb those feelings a bit and let me pretend for a bit I was ok.

I guess I am seeing that the feelings remain whether I am drinking or not. I've not been diagnosed with any mental health issue besides depression, but I do see how warped my perceptions of myself are and how hard it is for other people to connect with me when I spend my life giving the world messages that I am not worth much. My drinking problem only serves to harm me further.