PreciousKitty

My son just turned 21 and drove 200 miles to a gambling casino for the weekend. He said he wasn't going to drink. He is an alcoholic and when he does things usually go really wrong. He spent 6 months in jail for something stupid he did while drunk when he was 19.

NowI haven't heard from him since Saturday. I am scared to death. I am trying to stay sober myself and struggling right now. He is a sweet kid and it is hard to see him struggle. I don't know if I could handle it if anything happened to/with him.

Elisabeth888

The best thing you can do for him is to stay sober. Show him it is possible.

I am sorry you are under so much stress. I don't have kids, but I think that would be driving me nuts. You can't control it though. And worrying doesn't help. Just be there for him.

Horselover

Being a Mom is such a hard job and especially when we must let go of the reins. You now must let him make his own decisions and as hard as it is, live through the consequences of such decisions as you did yourself.

Also,you must not let this give you an opening to resuming an active relapse for yourself. It will solve absolutely nothing and cause you shame and remorse. Call a friend or family member. Post here as often as you need to. Reach out because what you need are shoulders not a bottle. You are going through enough already. Don't increase your load by drinking.

PreciousKitty

Thanks for that Horselover

Odelle

Hang in there Kitty. One thing that is hard for parents is not knowing where your children are. This continues into their adulthood especially when they live at home. I don’t know if it is their internal strive to break free and become independent, but when they disappear for days without any contact, it drives the parent(s) insane with worry, well me anyway. I can’t even tell you how many times I have tried to relay this to my daughter, to no avail. Chin up Kitty, he is legally an adult and despite your worry, sometimes no news is good news. Try texting him, I have found that to be the best way to check in with my adult kids….something simple like “you okay?” works for my daughter.

Coldfusion

Kitty, thank you so much for posting here.

Please let us know how you are doing.

I'm going to change my signature...

vegibean

Kitty, how's it going? Have you heard from him? How are you doing? Hope to hear from you.

quitforme79

Staying sober will allow you to show him it's possible and also allow you to be there for him when he gets sober. Hang in there..I know it's tough. I am extremely worried about those still actively using in my family too. If you pray to someone do it now. Helps give me a little peace. I will include your son in my prayers tonight. ((hugs))

Booniecat

Kitty, you sound like a good, caring Mom. Sober you is the best thing you can do for him. Both my sons have issues with alcohol and I am hoping having a sober dad will help them with their issues instead of reinforcing them.

I am playing golf with them on Friday which is usually a reason for lots of beers. I am committed not to drink but have a great time with the guys. I have a plan for success and lots of Gatorade to bring with me. Both of them know I have issues moderating my drinking and I know they will be supportive.

Dee74

let us know how you are when you can PK

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Kat60

Thinking of you Kitty!!! Hoping everything is ok... We are here....