773niki

I need immediate help!

I'm 4 months sober today. So happy. But I also have to go over to my boyfriend's family's house for the first time in 2 months. His sister decided she hated me and has been ignoring me and mad at me for 2 months - thinking I'm not right for him, etc. due to my alcoholism. She's said some pretty nasty things. This is the longest I've ever been sober and I have a great program of recovery in place.

She wants to "give me a second chance" but I'm fuming from this as she's treated me terribly for 2 months. I'm having a really hard time going over there - very nervous. How do I go over there and confront this without acting "alcoholic?"

Anna

I don't think you need to or should confront her.

She is upset with you being an active alcoholic and dating her brother. She loves her brother and cares about his well-being. She likely said more than she should have, but in her view, she was very worried for her brother.

If she is giving you a second chance, be very grateful. Show her that you are not the same person. This is your opportunity to begin to change the relationship you have with this woman.

773niki

Thanks. That is very hard for me to do for some reason. I'm trying though...