SophieB

Hi friends .. Just need to share my boyfriend went skiing to meet all his friends .. and he is good. But its people they all meet once a year . I have been before. .he is like come with I have been thinking about it and I was like I can't be all around that skiing, dinners, drinking I stayed here. He is sweet and kind and gets it but I just hate that this is so hard.. I do not like being an alcoholic sometimes.

Dee74

Can you do something for yourself Sophie?
do something you like to do this weekend

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PreciousKitty

I think u made the right decision Sophie.

Maybe you are needed here tonight.

You were one of the first people to welcome me and my first friend here.

firstweek

SophieB, I have just explained to my BF that for a couple of months I am going to bow out of the social, drinky occasions. I have no problem with him still living life and socialising but he understands that I need to get much stronger before being comfortable in that environment. Tonight he went into the city and met some friends....it was a little hard but I knew it was for the best and told him to go....I made a big bucket of popcorn and watched a film with my cat... This is a really difficult process but in the end I think we will gain so much. Reading posts from people who are a lot further down the line has helped me because NONE of them regret staying sober....good luck!

MsJax

I know Sophie . Like Dee said, what is a special thing you can do for you? Take super good, nurturing care of you. As time passes and you are solidly sober you will be free to do anything! You made a good choice for your sobriety.

I know it's lonely sometimes. Best wishes.

SophieB

Yes Dee ..thank you.. just hanging with the dogs making a pizza , but I just wish I could do this like regular people . Just have a glass or two of wine., Why us? And I know the ramifications I've been there my friend is there .. My other friend from high school killed himself last year.. My other girl which I took an attachment to in rehab was good off drugs 3 months and died of heroin overdose!!! She was only 20.

SophieB

Thanks my friends I'm just really sad right now... This is just hard I want to feel normal..

FeelingGreat

Hang in there Sophie, and if you keep being sad, consider talking to your doctor about depression.
You don't need to feel lonely with all your SR friends around.

neferkamichael

SophieB, you are FANTASTIC, you have the courage to stay sober. Even sadness will diminish with time. Congratulations.

ReadyAndAble

Oh, you will. I had a lot of ups and downs in the early days. It's a big change, and I isolated myself at first. But I knew how important this was, and looking back, I'm really glad I played it safe.

Don't worry—in the end recovery is really about freedom. To go where you want, do what you want, and wake up feeling great about yourself. It's the addiction that isolates us, and recovery that sets us free. Trust in yourself; remember why you want this. You're doing great!

SophieB

Thanks all.. Your words have helped me soooo much. .It is just so hard to not be sad and feel normal. I will do it. Do not like the struggle.

SophieB

Precious. Kitty.. What you up to? Everything going well? Nice to hear from you. Nonsense,? Where is the bacon?

PreciousKitty

I'm good - Been gratefully sober since I joined. I would if I had to, but I certainly don't want to have to come back here and write those dreaded words day ONE!

Are you feeling better today Sophie?

paul99

I tried to be "normal" over and over again, with the same result - full on blackout oblivion. The longer I tried to convince myself over and over again that I could drink like others, the longer I stayed sick and things got progressively worse. It was when I stopped fighting that notion, got into recovery, and started to get into a new normal for me, is when I found freedom and release. Sadness will come and go...I sometimes just sit with it, and not wallow in it, but see it as part of my growth. I can do things to chase it away - talking to other alcoholics, reaching out to others, coming here, doing something fun...but don't fear the sadness. Drinking was a way I tried to deal with it, and it didn't work for long.

I wish you a wonderful day

kiki26

It is so hard. I too am sitting at home instead of being with my fiancé and friends. I can't face being around others drinking yet so I would rather sit home sad and sober good luck to you!

vegibean

Sophie, I think it's good you're looking out for yourself. You'll be joining them soon, you can do it eventually. Glad you have a partner that supports you.

I totally get it. I had to stay away from my really good friends for a long time because they all drank. I was able to get to a point where I could hang out with them for a while until they got too buzzed that I couldn't stand being there any more, lol!! Still love them, still like being around them, and while I stayed away for a while, I was able to join my circle of good friends who supported me too. Hang in there.