facebook or here?
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facebook or here?
I'm obviously struggling with who I am, what I need and where I'm going in life. Is it more acceptable to plead my struggles here or lay them out on facebook for my world to know? I say here, semi-annonomously, relieving the stress inside....but for a recovery site, there seems to be a lot of judgement, just saying....
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Seems like a matter of personal preference. Speaking for myself, I am quite certain I would experience more judgment on Facebook than I do here. Mostly in the form of being unfriended or put on ignore from people who don't want to spend their free time reading about my drinking issues.
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Damn avrt, ur probably the 30th person to tell me to check it out...I was much more comfortable completely knowing aa isn't for me.....I have to check it out now...if it makes sense to me I have no more excuses for my bad decisions...damnit...trying to toys r us it and not grow up...but its an undeniable fact of lie I guess
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Originally Posted by RoundTwo 
trying to toys r us it and not grow up...but its an undeniable fact of lie I guess
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hahaha, I call it the Famebook because anyone on their can make their profiles to be whatever they want the world to see them as. The nice thing about FB is that you can sort of get a away with making yourself out to be who you want the world to see you as.
This might not be your case, but I had a friend who would put on their she was a pro photographer, had some nice pictures etc. In reality she works in a photo lab......makes minimum wage.......and her life isnt that interesting.....but in the FB world........she works for a photo studio, takes awesome pics etc. It can be fun, but it can also become a behavioral habbit. If you need to talk to people or tell them you feeling on recovery, I think you will find a lot more advice here than on FB. And to be honest, this whole journey really doesnt need to be everyones business. I can garuantee you more people on here will understand my struggle than all my friends on FB. So for me, I let it go a few weeks ago, till i get my mind tied on a little more straight. Nothing wrong with taking a little break from Facebook and it might be a good little goal to set.
Either way FB is fun, and its really up to you, but why not try it staying away from it for a few weeks.......see if it helps???
I'll be back on their in a month or so......but its been kind of nice to be honest.......
Hope this helps or gives you a different perspective.......
This might not be your case, but I had a friend who would put on their she was a pro photographer, had some nice pictures etc. In reality she works in a photo lab......makes minimum wage.......and her life isnt that interesting.....but in the FB world........she works for a photo studio, takes awesome pics etc. It can be fun, but it can also become a behavioral habbit. If you need to talk to people or tell them you feeling on recovery, I think you will find a lot more advice here than on FB. And to be honest, this whole journey really doesnt need to be everyones business. I can garuantee you more people on here will understand my struggle than all my friends on FB. So for me, I let it go a few weeks ago, till i get my mind tied on a little more straight. Nothing wrong with taking a little break from Facebook and it might be a good little goal to set.
Either way FB is fun, and its really up to you, but why not try it staying away from it for a few weeks.......see if it helps???
I'll be back on their in a month or so......but its been kind of nice to be honest.......
Hope this helps or gives you a different perspective.......
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I think I have the reverse comlex, my life over the last 6 years is facebook worthy more than most but I tried to make "normal". But my issues were extensive...goes with my lifestyle....id rather lay it out on here but still have this fear of judgement which is where a lot of my problems lie........
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I don't like FB. From my experience, there is a lot of negativity. Plus, my FB "friends" for the most part, aren't people I would turn to when I have a problem. I rarely post on FB, but gave no problem (and feel really good about) posting gere.
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Originally Posted by Taking5
What many newcomers here call "judgement" is really the voice of experience from people that have been there, done that, got the T-shirt, JMHO.
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In my experience, I sent out an e-mail to a few close friends and chatted in person with my family. As far as the rest of my 400 facebook friends know, I'm fine. I try to stay away from posting anything personal there, just post pics ("cool bridge I saw in New Mexico last week" type stuff).
The e-mail was helpful because my close friends could offer their support, plus I had 10 extra pairs of eyes on me at all times and I owed someone my best effort. I'd probably have done it more measuredly now that I think about it, but at the time I was hurting bad and needed to get it out. Good luck.
The e-mail was helpful because my close friends could offer their support, plus I had 10 extra pairs of eyes on me at all times and I owed someone my best effort. I'd probably have done it more measuredly now that I think about it, but at the time I was hurting bad and needed to get it out. Good luck.
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haha, yeah life without the chemicals is a big boy game, R2.
RoundTwo...
What exactly does "facebook worthy" mean?
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Rather than share all the nitty, gritty details on FB, I've used it to post a couple of cool things I've accomplished since I got sober on Facebook, without giving any context. "Look at this coffee table we built! We're pretty pleased with ourselves." I enjoyed getting the positive affirmation for accomplishing some things that I never would have accomplished before. But I think I'll keep the rest of my journey to my close friends and SR. For me, FB only gets to see the good stuff. 
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I personally think facebook is a wast of time, regardless of whether or not folks have an addiction issue. It's all about vanity and one-upsmanship, which is exactly the opposite of what one dealing with addiction issues needs.
Forums such as SR offer support and help from people who are like minded and have your recovery in their best interest.
Forums such as SR offer support and help from people who are like minded and have your recovery in their best interest.
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Originally Posted by RoundTwo
Is it more acceptable to plead my struggles here or lay them out on facebook for my world to know?
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
It's all about vanity and one-upsmanship, which is exactly the opposite of what one dealing with addiction issues needs.
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Please; please, please let it be here and not facebook.
I believe Facebook can have big ramifications on your life depending on what you share.
It's not as innocent as it seems!
The first thing my manager does (who is not on face book) when he is recruiting new team members, is ask me to look on my facebook to see what I can find out about a potential new recruit.
Whether it is right or wrong to do that, I don't know, but it happens!
In addition to this if you posted about alcohol you would probably be bombarded with drink related advertisements which I think you could probably do without at this moment in time!
Perhaps if you are wanting social networking, go for a recovery related one.
I am sure they must exist.
I believe Facebook can have big ramifications on your life depending on what you share.
It's not as innocent as it seems!
The first thing my manager does (who is not on face book) when he is recruiting new team members, is ask me to look on my facebook to see what I can find out about a potential new recruit.
Whether it is right or wrong to do that, I don't know, but it happens!
In addition to this if you posted about alcohol you would probably be bombarded with drink related advertisements which I think you could probably do without at this moment in time!
Perhaps if you are wanting social networking, go for a recovery related one.
I am sure they must exist.
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