My awesome post-relapse plan
My awesome post-relapse plan
I should have shared this with you earlier - after 3 weeks sober, I had a 2 week relapse. I've just finished Day 1 (again).
So obviously what I was doing before wasn't working, so I've come up with an awesome new plan and just wanted to share it with you all (as well as other people) so I stay accountable and humble.
Operation Awesome
I'm self-employed, so I can cut down/rearrange my workload to accommodate for all this, at least for the time being. My sobriety is the most important thing right now. I was barely doing any work when I was drinking anyway, so I may as well barely do any work and stay sober. I'm reviewing this plan at the end of March, so we'll see then if I make any alterations to it.
Also, here's a list of alternative activities I'm going to pick from whenever I get a craving:
ETA: Sorry about the odd numbering. I'm not very good at doing lists on here yet.
So obviously what I was doing before wasn't working, so I've come up with an awesome new plan and just wanted to share it with you all (as well as other people) so I stay accountable and humble.
Operation Awesome
- Log into at least one online AA meeting a day
- Go to at least one face-to-face AA/NA meeting a week and actually start talking to people
- Spend at least 1/2 hour a day reading Big Book
- Spend at least 1/2 hour a day working the Steps.
- Spend at least 1 hour a day getting and providing support on SR
- Eat lots of healthier, flavoursome food, especially fruit and vegetables.
- Take my antidepressants at the same time every day.
- Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day
- Spend at least 5 minutes a day with Jesus, my Higher Power, even if it's just praying in bed before getting up in the morning
- Read through my list of sobriety quotes for at least 1/2 hour a day.
- Sleep 10 hours a day, at least until I have more sober time under my belt
I'm self-employed, so I can cut down/rearrange my workload to accommodate for all this, at least for the time being. My sobriety is the most important thing right now. I was barely doing any work when I was drinking anyway, so I may as well barely do any work and stay sober. I'm reviewing this plan at the end of March, so we'll see then if I make any alterations to it.
Also, here's a list of alternative activities I'm going to pick from whenever I get a craving:
- Call/meet up with someone from AA/NA
- Call/meet up with anyone else who isn't an enabler or who can't be in my life right now
- SR or AA Online chat
- Online AA meeting
- F-2-F AA/NA meeting
- Pray/pray and read the Bible
- Tea/coffee/cocoa
- Eat/drink something else non-alcoholic
- Sleep
- Dance in my living room
- Play Fairway Solitaire
- Play Heroes of Hellas
- Browse the SR games
- Browse Swagbucks games
- Browse Big Fish games
- TV
- Watch something from my DVR
- DVDs
- Listen to CDs
- Listen to Classical FM
- Light matches and watch them burn out
- Go buy paint. Paint something. Literally watch paint dry.
- Read sobriety quotes
- Have a bath
- Browse Digital Spy forums
- Read newspaper/magazine
- Scribble
- Work the steps
- Read Big Book
- Write
ETA: Sorry about the odd numbering. I'm not very good at doing lists on here yet.
i have had many plans, ideas, thoughts that i must just be missing 1 vital bit of the recovery jigsaw, if only i done that instead of this etc.
i have come to realise that if you really want recovery you will get it even on the moon, there is no magic plan, its a journey a path that i believe changes as time goes on. good luck
i have come to realise that if you really want recovery you will get it even on the moon, there is no magic plan, its a journey a path that i believe changes as time goes on. good luck
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Great post and plan Louise! I think that its a really good idea to have your plan broken down into exact points as you have done especially in advance of any crisis cravings so that you know exactly what you can do instead. Ive been planning on doing the same and have started my list (love lists!)
Please keep us up to date on how you are doing with these, would be great to hear!
Very inspiring post so thank you
Please keep us up to date on how you are doing with these, would be great to hear!
Very inspiring post so thank you
Thanks for all your responses and support, everyone. It's really made me think and I'll definitely keep you updated.
Yes, I love lists too! Which is a big reason why I've made a plan like this. I find that when I have to-do lists, I find it easier literally "to do" stuff. I realize that things change over time, but in my early days of sobriety, I at least want to have a "menu" of actions I know that's always there to refer to, no matter what the circumstances. If I order "off menu" too often, I end up literally ordering alcohol.
Great post and plan Louise! I think that its a really good idea to have your plan broken down into exact points as you have done especially in advance of any crisis cravings so that you know exactly what you can do instead. Ive been planning on doing the same and have started my list (love lists!)
Please keep us up to date on how you are doing with these, would be great to hear!
Very inspiring post so thank you
Please keep us up to date on how you are doing with these, would be great to hear!
Very inspiring post so thank you
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Love this list Louise!!! Great to have many different plans actually written down. I make lists all the time. It is accountability and accomplishment checking off things on my list. This one is check and repeat! Any other ideas anyone has to add the the sobriety list???
Hey Peacehappyness, thanks for thinking of me. I'm now nearing the end of Day 10. Although I haven't picked up a drink, ACT10Npack is right; there were too many guidelines. I just didn't have time for it all along with my work. So I've kind of naturally fallen into the habit of picking and choosing 2 or 3 different ones a day.
One thing that I have actually been doing every day is something that I didn't initially intend to, which just goes to show you can never tell how plans are going to evolve. It's not an exact science - once you've created a plan it takes on a mind of its own! The thing I've been doing every day is going to AA meetings. That's because I went to a meeting on Saturday and someone suggested I do that, so I'm giving that a go for the time being. I think it's important for me to take on board other people's suggestions as well as executing my own ideas. After all, it was trying to have everything my way, all the time, that got me into my current mess!
One thing that I have actually been doing every day is something that I didn't initially intend to, which just goes to show you can never tell how plans are going to evolve. It's not an exact science - once you've created a plan it takes on a mind of its own! The thing I've been doing every day is going to AA meetings. That's because I went to a meeting on Saturday and someone suggested I do that, so I'm giving that a go for the time being. I think it's important for me to take on board other people's suggestions as well as executing my own ideas. After all, it was trying to have everything my way, all the time, that got me into my current mess!
Fantastic idea. I love the displacement activities you have identified. I can add a couple more that I'm doing:
Grown up colouring in. You can print detailed pictures off the Internet. Colouring is incredibly meditative!
Google unusual walks in London. I've discovered so many new places and quirky things. My fave so far was the '7 noses of soho' walk. I only found 4!
Good luck with your journey. I have not felt like drinking yet, but I plan on coming straight on SR if/when I do. This place is a life saver.
S x
Grown up colouring in. You can print detailed pictures off the Internet. Colouring is incredibly meditative!
Google unusual walks in London. I've discovered so many new places and quirky things. My fave so far was the '7 noses of soho' walk. I only found 4!
Good luck with your journey. I have not felt like drinking yet, but I plan on coming straight on SR if/when I do. This place is a life saver.
S x
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I asked my AA sponsor what I should do, he said :"Don't drink and go to meetings".
All my very best plans landed me in rehab. I had to do it someone else's way.
I try to abide by the last 3 lines in AA's HOW IT WORKS ......
3 pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
All the best with your plan(s).
Bob R
All my very best plans landed me in rehab. I had to do it someone else's way.
I try to abide by the last 3 lines in AA's HOW IT WORKS ......
3 pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
All the best with your plan(s).
Bob R
I asked my AA sponsor what I should do, he said :"Don't drink and go to meetings".
All my very best plans landed me in rehab. I had to do it someone else's way.
I try to abide by the last 3 lines in AA's HOW IT WORKS ......
3 pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
All the best with your plan(s).
Bob R
All my very best plans landed me in rehab. I had to do it someone else's way.
I try to abide by the last 3 lines in AA's HOW IT WORKS ......
3 pertinent ideas:
(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives.
(b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.
(c) That God could and would if He were sought.
All the best with your plan(s).
Bob R
Fantastic idea. I love the displacement activities you have identified. I can add a couple more that I'm doing:
Grown up colouring in. You can print detailed pictures off the Internet. Colouring is incredibly meditative!
Google unusual walks in London. I've discovered so many new places and quirky things. My fave so far was the '7 noses of soho' walk. I only found 4!
Good luck with your journey. I have not felt like drinking yet, but I plan on coming straight on SR if/when I do. This place is a life saver.
S x
Grown up colouring in. You can print detailed pictures off the Internet. Colouring is incredibly meditative!
Google unusual walks in London. I've discovered so many new places and quirky things. My fave so far was the '7 noses of soho' walk. I only found 4!
Good luck with your journey. I have not felt like drinking yet, but I plan on coming straight on SR if/when I do. This place is a life saver.
S x
I'll definitely Google unusual walks. It's about time I got out and started really exploring this city, after living here nearly all my life!
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