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I would say that you will need to work with your husband to help him stay sober.
Do you foresee any problems with this? Do you think he will leave rehab wanting to stay sober?
I would say that you will need to work with your husband to help him stay sober.
Do you foresee any problems with this? Do you think he will leave rehab wanting to stay sober?
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He is a drug addict who has caused me great pain and although I truly believe that he will be coming home with the will and disre not to use, I am scared to open myself up to that kind of pain again. Is there any sure way to prtect myself and children from this?
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It is so nice right now being able to go to sleep without worrying about him. Him being gone has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders and just thinking about him returning stresses me out. Will this feeling go away or just get worse?
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In a word no. No one can predict the future, however based on past experience you can make a fairly acurate perdiction. before jumping to conclusions, I wolld check out the alanon section.(support for family of substance abusers) lots of great support and advice from thoes who have been right where you are.
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Sorry, I don't know how long he's been gone or when he'll be back...
There is information and support here at SR to help you prepare for his return. If you have some sort of "plan," maybe you won't feel so worried.
Is there much opportunity for you to interact with the rehab program?
There is information and support here at SR to help you prepare for his return. If you have some sort of "plan," maybe you won't feel so worried.
Is there much opportunity for you to interact with the rehab program?
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Originally Posted by recovering2013 
I will be going to my 1st NAR-ANON meeting on Thursday
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Thank you to everyone who has responded to me thus far. I am open to all suggestions and welcome your opinions. I am extremely greatful and hope that I will in time be able to help someone else out there going somrthing.
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Originally Posted by recovering2013
I am very nervous about that.
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Is hanging out with other couples, where one is in recovery, a good thing. Like when my husband comes home and starts going to meeting, should I encourage him to invite someone from his group and their spouse over for dinner or something?
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Originally Posted by recovering2013
I feel like REALITY is just punching me in my stomach and head and it really hurts.
There is a section of this forum for friends and family. But come here to the Newcomer's forum any time you need help in a hurry--there's folks here from all over the world.
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I wouldn't be inviting his group friends over for dinner, after all, it's supposed to be anonymous, and them coming to your house would break their anonymity.
I'd just soak up all the info you can get at the nar anon meeting as they will have experience at what you're feeling. It's normal, I think, to be relieved when a loved one is away at rehab as it does give you peace in the home that was lacking when the user was there and using.
I wouldn't project into the future too much, just stay in today and get to that meeting. You could set boundaries with your husband that if there's any drug use after he gets home that will end your marriage. Marriage counseling could also be of help to get your relationship past these troubled times. That could be one thing you insist on to get things back to normal.
I wish you the best and welcome you to the family.
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
AA is about alcohol, NA is about drugs. That's the difference.
I'd just soak up all the info you can get at the nar anon meeting as they will have experience at what you're feeling. It's normal, I think, to be relieved when a loved one is away at rehab as it does give you peace in the home that was lacking when the user was there and using.
I wouldn't project into the future too much, just stay in today and get to that meeting. You could set boundaries with your husband that if there's any drug use after he gets home that will end your marriage. Marriage counseling could also be of help to get your relationship past these troubled times. That could be one thing you insist on to get things back to normal.
I wish you the best and welcome you to the family.
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
AA is about alcohol, NA is about drugs. That's the difference.
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Originally Posted by recovering2013
Like when my husband comes home and starts going to meeting, should I encourage him to invite someone from his group and their spouse over for dinner or something?
NA and AA are similar programs. The most important thing is to find a group of people and sponsor you like.
Here's that link:
Your First AA Meeting<
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