Tragedy and first 30 days of sobriety.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
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I don't know what part of the state you are in but i do know that Florida has some of the top plastic reconstructive surgeons, the training program at the university is one of the best in the country.
i would wait until things settle and ask your sister how she feels about the dog too. you do not have to make any decisions today. i'm glad to hear that her wounds don't seem to have caused any main nerve damage and that she has good care.
congrats on staying sober and coming here.
i would wait until things settle and ask your sister how she feels about the dog too. you do not have to make any decisions today. i'm glad to hear that her wounds don't seem to have caused any main nerve damage and that she has good care.
congrats on staying sober and coming here.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Finger Lakes, NY
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I have a friend who's dog maliciously attacked his niece. He had the dog for quite a long time and couldn't bear to put it down or get rid of it. So now, he segregates the dog off into the bedroom when guests come over. May be an option for you? Just a thought. I'm glad your sis is going to be ok.
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Join Date: Jul 2010
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Glad to hear you are taking good care of yourself and it sounds like your sister is in good hands.
I'm sorry about the dog, but the lawyer in me would be afraid to keep him, and equally afraid of placing him somewhere else. That isn't a decision that has to be made today, though. One thing at a time, and your sobriety and your sister's well-being are the most important.
I'm sorry about the dog, but the lawyer in me would be afraid to keep him, and equally afraid of placing him somewhere else. That isn't a decision that has to be made today, though. One thing at a time, and your sobriety and your sister's well-being are the most important.
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Join Date: Apr 2010
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My heart goes out to you. I believe things happen for a reason, but it sure is hard sometimes. I'm so glad you're sober and can be there for your sister.... I can't imagine dealing with something like this while drinking. (Congratulations on your 30 days, by the way!)
I'll send prayers for a speedy recovery for her and for good doctors who know just what to do. It sounds like she has lots of support. Take care of yourself, too. :ghug3
I'll send prayers for a speedy recovery for her and for good doctors who know just what to do. It sounds like she has lots of support. Take care of yourself, too. :ghug3
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Join Date: Jul 2012
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I'm so sorry this has happened. I'm glad to hear that your sister is in good hands and that her spirits are up.
I would talk to your sister when she is better and talk to her about what she thinks happened with your dog. If she feels the dog was just playing and it was an accident, maybe you could just tell people not to play roughly with the dog.
Take it one day at a time. I wouldn't make any decisions when your emotional. You don't want to do anything you will regret in the future. Great job not drinking, it would only make you feel worse in the long run.
Keep posting, you're in all our thoughts.
I would talk to your sister when she is better and talk to her about what she thinks happened with your dog. If she feels the dog was just playing and it was an accident, maybe you could just tell people not to play roughly with the dog.
Take it one day at a time. I wouldn't make any decisions when your emotional. You don't want to do anything you will regret in the future. Great job not drinking, it would only make you feel worse in the long run.
Keep posting, you're in all our thoughts.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
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I am sorry about this incident and the injury to your sister. Weasel1966 may have a hard time putting an animal down but you may be aware that you might not have a choice if your animal is quarantined and put under observation. If your dog is deemed 'safe', I would ask your sister after some time passes what she thinks you should do.
Animals are animals and trying to give them human 'qualities', while charming, is futile.
Staying sober through this ordeal should be very helpful in your decision-making in the days to come.
I'll say prayers for your sister and you and your pooch. Good luck.
Animals are animals and trying to give them human 'qualities', while charming, is futile.
Staying sober through this ordeal should be very helpful in your decision-making in the days to come.
I'll say prayers for your sister and you and your pooch. Good luck.
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So terribly sorry to hear about this - my heart goes out to you, your sister, and your dog too. Please stay in touch and let us know how it's going. Not fair for you to have this challenge right now, but I'm very proud of you for staying sober. It's the only way to face things - with a clear head.
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I am so sorry Drayer. I will keep both you and your sister in my prayers. Please let us know how she is doing.
As an animal owner/lover I am sure there are a million thoughts swirling through your head right now. Like many of the other posters said you don't have to make any decisions today.
Please keep us updated.
As an animal owner/lover I am sure there are a million thoughts swirling through your head right now. Like many of the other posters said you don't have to make any decisions today.
Please keep us updated.
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Please do try to gather all the facts before you make a decision of what to do with your dog. He is after all, being a dog. I am so sorry that your sister is badly injured and obviously will take time to heal. Prayers for you, your sister and your dog.
How old is your sister?
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Join Date: Dec 2012
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I am just in awe at your strength, in dealing with this nightmarish situation without picking up a drink. You've just inspired me that exactly THIS is what that dreaded expression 'life on life's terms' is all about for us alkies.
Many prayers and waving my Tibetan prayer flags coming your way from Australia!:ghug3
Many prayers and waving my Tibetan prayer flags coming your way from Australia!:ghug3
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Washington, Captiol City
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Thats just a terrible thing. We are so sorry to hear of this awful occurance. I'm so impressed how well you are able to voice the frustration w/o loosing it. Great job staying sober. All the best wishes and prayers for you and your sister. please let us all know how everyone is doing.
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Thank you for the kindness I stepped out of her room to check in. The decision concerning the dog is most likely out of my hands, for which I am almost thankful. Anyway it's not a top priority.
It is hard to see my beautiful sister so injured and damaged. I want the doctors to turn her back to how she was but there will inevitably some visible damage. She is in decent spirits. I have been reading Harry potter out loud to her. She grew up with them and its like an old friend for her.
Unfortunately no news from the team of drs. They have 3 "ENT" specialists who will be working on the surgery (that's ear nose and throat). Although they have some questionable people skills they seem like amazing doctors. They also called in a plastics specialist from Houston to help. He is suppose to be one of the top 3 mouth reconstruction surgeons in the country so hopefully they can help her feel beautiful again.
Thanks again for the prayers. She has been amazingly strong through this.
It is hard to see my beautiful sister so injured and damaged. I want the doctors to turn her back to how she was but there will inevitably some visible damage. She is in decent spirits. I have been reading Harry potter out loud to her. She grew up with them and its like an old friend for her.
Unfortunately no news from the team of drs. They have 3 "ENT" specialists who will be working on the surgery (that's ear nose and throat). Although they have some questionable people skills they seem like amazing doctors. They also called in a plastics specialist from Houston to help. He is suppose to be one of the top 3 mouth reconstruction surgeons in the country so hopefully they can help her feel beautiful again.
Thanks again for the prayers. She has been amazingly strong through this.
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