Day 27 My Wife stressing
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
Posts: 16,633
Heh, well, dude, you probably haven't been a picnic to live with, either. 
Seriously, though, early sobriety is stressful on both people. If you are making each other nuts, try getting out of the house for a while. Might be doing you both a favor.
Seriously, though, early sobriety is stressful on both people. If you are making each other nuts, try getting out of the house for a while. Might be doing you both a favor.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Posts: 590
You are not alone. My wife and I have what I would consider an excellent relationship but the first couple of months after I quit drinking were just terrible. Seemed like we were two of those moutain rams you see on TV just butting into each other time and time again. So out of character.
Please just try to be nice and get through it. It didn't take too long before things were much better in our case.
(btw....I am pretty sure I was repsonsible for my behavior and also for the change in hers. After all, it was me that changed by drinking and then changed again by quitting. She was just along for the ride and I am afraid it may have made here a little "(e)motion sick".
Please just try to be nice and get through it. It didn't take too long before things were much better in our case.
(btw....I am pretty sure I was repsonsible for my behavior and also for the change in hers. After all, it was me that changed by drinking and then changed again by quitting. She was just along for the ride and I am afraid it may have made here a little "(e)motion sick".
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Minneapolis
Posts: 210
empathy is the key here - Lexi hit the nail on the head - you're the cause of a lot of her stress, think about it. that being said: Eleanor Roosevelt said:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!"
just substitute : " No one can make you feel stress without your consent"
maybe not what you want to hear but there's truth in those there words
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!"
just substitute : " No one can make you feel stress without your consent"
maybe not what you want to hear but there's truth in those there words
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 2,408
She will have her reactions, as my wife did early on in my recovery. She may bring up things, may displace her anxiety on others and/or be unable to convey what she's really feeling. I know I didn't know how to express my feelings, and drinking helped that throughout my life.
Give her time, show her that you're changing, give her hugs even when she's not expecting them and remember that you're not the only one who struggled in your alcoholism.
Give her time, show her that you're changing, give her hugs even when she's not expecting them and remember that you're not the only one who struggled in your alcoholism.
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