soberclover

My feelings got hurt yet again by bf and I'm feeling really sad and emotional. Haven't reacted this way before. I don't like it and I'm literally feeling sick to my stomach. I know I am having a "feeling" and I am sober so therefore reacting to not picking up a drink to deal with feeling this way. I've decided the safest place for me to be is right here at home. I don't want to drink because that won't solve anything. He will still be an idiot and I will be drunk.

Hollyanne

When he is not looking, really, really stick out your tongue at him doing the hands at the sides of your head and everything.
That will be better than drinking and might make you laugh.

neferkamichael

Soberclover, He will still be an idiot and I will be drunk? You are FANTASTIC.

vegibean

soberclover, I'm sorry you're feeling sad.

I know I get sensitive a lot too, and I think it's because we're so raw after we get sober. I hope you can watch a happy movie or something and can turn you day/night around. :ghug3

Dee74

I'm sorry you got hurt soberclover.

each time we deal with a situation like that sober tho, it gets a little easier to deal with the emotions

you did all the right things

D

LindaLou

Hey soberclover,

I'm sorry your bf got you so upset. Sometimes they can be so insensitive. But I am proud of you for not wanting to drink! That is awesome! (I give mine the "bird" behind his back when he's been a jerk to me)!!

instant

stick at it no matter what he chucks at you I hope your resolve grows

LexieCat

I found dealing with strong emotions the hardest part of being newly sober. It feels so intense and I remember thinking, "I can't STAND this!"

But every time I dealt with something hard, without picking up a drink, it got a little bit easier next time.

Oh, and I don't know what your b/f did or said (it may have been awful), but early sobriety can be tough on loved ones, too. We aren't the way they are used to.

vegibean

Hee hee LindaLou.

kizzy40

Tell him... The reflex action of reaching for the booze was my goto response when my feelings were hurt. Stop doing it, you will end up like I did a champagne bottle of bitterness and unexpressed emotions.
This rage you feel may be you starting to unravel?
It's a good thing go with it, drive somewhere secluded and write down all your angry thoughts and why you feel upset. Keep it for future reference or destroy it whatever feels right.
Scream your bloody head off then cry your eyes out, it's fine nobody will see you.
It feels great! ;D

LadyinBC

Good for you Soberclover. It does get easier to deal with our emotions and feelings sober as time goes on.

FlowersJasmine

This is great, reacting by taking a bottle does not in any way solve the problem, it will not change him, but staying sober and talking to him may change him. Just stay at home.