a little about me & how i came here
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a little about me & how i came here
Hi. It had recently come to my attention I have a problem with alcohol when my beloved boyfriend dumped me due to me blacking out and saying some horrible things to him. Also in the same night I was informed that I will need to start looking for a new place soon. Its been very rough few days with immense amount of feeling utterly alone.
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I was told by one of my kids that I needed to stop drinking. I didn't listen to her, of course, and kept on going until she threatened to move in with her dad. That made me think but all it really did was make me hide it better...
I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired and stopped drinking on my own (with the help of my addiction counselor and this site). I've been sober three years now and never felt better.
You might be in the dumps now but the longer you stay sober, the better your life will become.
You'll find a lot of help, support and knowledge here. These folks are the best. Stick around, you can do this..life is more manageable, sober! Member
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thank you
Right now every minute is a struggle. I just keep thinking of who I can call to go have a drink with. Especially since its a friends b'day and tomorrow is a year anniversary of the death of my best friend. Being alone is tough.
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I have but with my work schedule doesn't really allow me to attend. Also, the ones I'm finding is religion based and I'm not religious at all & have a bit of a negative history with religion. That's why I joined this chat. I realize I cant do this alone & with day being my weekend I just want to buy a bottle and hang out at a friends drinking the day & night away.
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welcome losngevrythng
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
The main thing tho - whatever you decide to do - is do something.
In my experience, inaction (for whatever reasons) just leads to more drinking.
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There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - here's some links to some of the main players:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
The main thing tho - whatever you decide to do - is do something.
In my experience, inaction (for whatever reasons) just leads to more drinking.
D
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If you're not religious or spiritual you probably would find AVRT helpful. Theres a secular forum on this website and a lot of active AVRT members. That being said AA is just a spiritual program. The literature all says God. But its whatever you want your God to be. Mine was Morgan Freeman from Bruce Almighty.
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Natom.
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Remember,
Alcohol is NOT your friend.
Alcohol made you into the person who spoke to your boyfriend in a mean way.
Alcohol is NOT YOUR FRIEND.
Get used to feeling.
Feeling is normal.
Feelings are real.
It is tough at the beginning.
Just for today, don't drink.
Alcohol is NOT your friend.
Alcohol made you into the person who spoke to your boyfriend in a mean way.
Alcohol is NOT YOUR FRIEND.
Get used to feeling.
Feeling is normal.
Feelings are real.
It is tough at the beginning.
Just for today, don't drink.
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You are not the first one to burn bridges while being drunk. I always hated the question ,"Do your friends or family complain about your drinking?" The truth was ,"Yes" I could never admit it. It is a warning sign that you may have a problem. If you do it will get worse until you stop. You have come to cool place to discuss it.
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Welcome losn. You aren't alone - so many of us have been through a similar situation, & we all understand. I think it'll help you to keep reading and posting here.
I'm sorry for what you're going through. My drinking led me to a similar place. You can reclaim your life and move past this sad time. It will all work out. Don't give up on yourself - you can do this.
I'm sorry for what you're going through. My drinking led me to a similar place. You can reclaim your life and move past this sad time. It will all work out. Don't give up on yourself - you can do this.
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Thank you all. Your words are helpful & encouraging. Its good to know im not alone and going through this on my own. I like alcohol but apparently alcohol doesn't like me & i had to lose the one person who made me promise to quit to begin with and was supporting me, i fell off the wagon that night and I've been regretting it ever since. I need to learn to quit concentrating on the past on and start looking towards the future. The desire is still strong but i need to be stronger and your words are helping me to continue taking those first steps to a better me.
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That was lovely to read.
Just for today.
That is how it's done.
Do it for you.
Be all that you can be!!!!!
Don't think too far into the future.
A day at a time is manageable and works for many of us.
Life gets better, then you have to remind yourself why it got better.
That is the trick.
Just for today.
That is how it's done.
Do it for you.
Be all that you can be!!!!!
Don't think too far into the future.
A day at a time is manageable and works for many of us.
Life gets better, then you have to remind yourself why it got better.
That is the trick.
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Originally Posted by losngevrythng 
Hi. It had recently come to my attention I have a problem with alcohol when my beloved boyfriend dumped me due to me blacking out and saying some horrible things to him. Also in the same night I was informed that I will need to start looking for a new place soon. Its been very rough few days with immense amount of feeling utterly alone.
Natom's advice is spot on:
"We can lost a lot through our addictions. But what we gain in our recovery outweighs the loss we felt. Take it easy, nice and simple, and one day at a time".
I have been in therapy and sober for over a year now. I actually met my ex in the street a few months ago. He has moved on, and is happy, and to be honest, I was happy that he is happy
My anger and sadness are just not there anymore So you can do this, one day at a time
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