Wife still not talking to me...
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Wife still not talking to me...
Home from work and my wife is asleep on the couch. This has become a regular thing since my blackout drunk on Sunday.
I was not an everyday blackout drunk because I had to hide it from her and my son. I was doing "really good" at keeping it to a few beers before she came home from work. I would stop a good while before she came home so I could come down from my buzz.
I knew sooner or later that I would drink until a blackout like I have so many times in the past, but I still kept on taking the chance.....
I miss talking with her after work....... I miss having her in bed with me.
At least I got a smile and a good night out of my son.....
Gall
I was not an everyday blackout drunk because I had to hide it from her and my son. I was doing "really good" at keeping it to a few beers before she came home from work. I would stop a good while before she came home so I could come down from my buzz.
I knew sooner or later that I would drink until a blackout like I have so many times in the past, but I still kept on taking the chance.....
I miss talking with her after work....... I miss having her in bed with me.
At least I got a smile and a good night out of my son.....
Gall
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Originally Posted by gall1972 
Home from work and my wife is asleep on the couch. This has become a regular thing since my blackout drunk on Sunday.
I was not an everyday blackout drunk because I had to hide it from her and my son. I was doing "really good" at keeping it to a few beers before she came home from work. I would stop a good while before she came home so I could come down from my buzz.
I knew sooner or later that I would drink until a blackout like I have so many times in the past, but I still kept on taking the chance.....
I miss talking with her after work....... I miss having her in bed with me.
At least I got a smile and a good night out of my son.....
Gall
I was not an everyday blackout drunk because I had to hide it from her and my son. I was doing "really good" at keeping it to a few beers before she came home from work. I would stop a good while before she came home so I could come down from my buzz.
I knew sooner or later that I would drink until a blackout like I have so many times in the past, but I still kept on taking the chance.....
I miss talking with her after work....... I miss having her in bed with me.
At least I got a smile and a good night out of my son.....
Gall
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Hi Gall
A good friend of mine over in the Family and Friends section always used to say 'my alcoholic doesn't get to choose the timetable for my forgiving him'
I reckon all alcoholics leave carnage in their wake - I don't care how functional we are.
We don't have to trash the place or end up in a jail cell to leave carnage - sometimes it can be as subtle as us simply not 'being there' of a night.
That can get old really quickly for our loved ones - and it's a wound that may take a little time to heal.
I'm not saying that to beat you up - it's just a natural consequence of having a third partner (the bottle) in the relationship I think - it's inevitable sometimes we'll have let others down.
Give people time to process that, and to regain some trust when they see you've changed...really changed
D
A good friend of mine over in the Family and Friends section always used to say 'my alcoholic doesn't get to choose the timetable for my forgiving him'
I reckon all alcoholics leave carnage in their wake - I don't care how functional we are.
We don't have to trash the place or end up in a jail cell to leave carnage - sometimes it can be as subtle as us simply not 'being there' of a night.
That can get old really quickly for our loved ones - and it's a wound that may take a little time to heal.
I'm not saying that to beat you up - it's just a natural consequence of having a third partner (the bottle) in the relationship I think - it's inevitable sometimes we'll have let others down.
Give people time to process that, and to regain some trust when they see you've changed...really changed
D
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We don't get instant results. Imagine someone has been sitting there poking you with a stick for years and then all of a sudden decides they want you to give them a hug. That's how your wife is feeling. You will get results. You just have to be patient and put in the work.
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Hi Gall.
My husband is the reason I found SR. Its hard for family, it does hurt sort of like getting poked with a stick everytime a relapse, or in this case a blackout happens. But my husband and I worked things out as he began recovery, healing, and I knew the stick was kindle..... Just stay your course and your family will notice.
My husband is the reason I found SR. Its hard for family, it does hurt sort of like getting poked with a stick everytime a relapse, or in this case a blackout happens. But my husband and I worked things out as he began recovery, healing, and I knew the stick was kindle..... Just stay your course and your family will notice.
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