hi everyone
 

hello just thought i would drop you a message to say im here for u if u need me jst dont feel like there is light at then end of the tunnel for me to.. Hello every 1 how r u all today clean and sober i hope Things jst seem to getting from bad to worse got to phone calls today what i have been praying i will never get that my ex boyfriend as tried to take his own life, he is ok tho and in hospital think that is the best place for him at the min, I have been told to cut away from him and jst look after my own recovery do u all think i should jst walk away from him?????? it is so hard to walk away and not care coz i love him so much

Hi me - I moved your post to its own thread :)

I definitely think you should look after your own recovery - whether or not that means you need to 'cut away' from your bf tho is really up to you. I don't think any of us can really tell you what to do there.

Only you know whether your relationship is good for your recovery or not.

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Thank you for getting back to me at the moment were we both r in recovery i think people r right telling me to break away its jst so hard coz all the way through my recovery he as been a part of it but it as turned us both to a really bad place but its not till now we av split up that i am realizing he is not my recovery but its still hard not to care xx

glad you're here me!

If you love him and want to be able to help him, you need to be healthy too. Your recovery will get you there. :) Best of luck.

I didn't notice he was an ex.

Maybe it is good for you both to focus on yourselves for a little while and get yourselves together?

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with you being a stranger to me and your telling me what every 1 else close to me is tell me i think i need to jst listen instead of listen to my head and my heart thank you so much for listen and if i can help you im here for you to.. xxx

Concentrate on YOU. Best of luck with your recovery

Thank you tamerua, I know things r looking alot better 2day than they av done they last week thank god dont think i can take any more heart ache xxx

glad things are looking better me01 :)

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Thank you dee i think my self now that i need time on my own for my own recovery and to support my mother and father when they av there operation, My head is alot more clean now and also think i broke away from him jst at the rite time. I wont give up on my ex bf but i'm goin to defo put my self first from now on and since i've thought like this things av got better thank you once again for your support dee and i'm here if you need me, How r u 2day?? xx

Today as been very hard :(
 

Been on a high on life the last few leadin up to new years eve and now my family av been seeing my ex partner there as been crossed words in the family and i feel like i've let them down and my self but what they dont understand that he is in hospital getting better and he as done a detox and as been clean for over a week now and he is in a really good place but my family, friend and sponser our still telling me to stay away and let him do some work on him self and let me carry on being strong in my recovery, I am not saying i want to move back in to our house together but i just want to support him coz i love him deeply and he as only got me no family what do you all think i should do please help????????? xxx

I sent you a PM in reply to yr mssg but it's probably best to answer here :)

I'm not really qualified to tell you what to do - noone here is - although I think your family and your sponsor are trying to look out for you.

A week sober is great but it's going to take many more weeks I think, for you both until you feel secure in recovery.

It might be best for both of you to focus on yourselves for a bit.

is your ex coming out of hospital soon?
why can't he find himself somewhere to stay for the moment?

it could be good for him to stand on his own two feet for a bit, as well as good for you too?

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ive replyed bk to you in your private msg. How r u dee? xx

busy :lmao

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haha :) Hope ur looking after your own recovery to?? xx

No worries - balance is really important - I'm taking a break right now :)
see you later :)

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aww ok love take care nite nite i'm off to bed meself chat soon thank you for listening :) xx