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Old 12-23-2012, 09:45 AM
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If you drink on NYE , what do you hope will happen? Are you thinking a New Year's toast, or just " a couple"? Have you ever been able to do just that, or does it end in a drinking binge? I doubt you will wake up on 1-1-13 and regret NOT drinking the night before. Hang with us on NYE.
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Old 12-23-2012, 10:13 AM
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Hi Avocado, I'm certainly no expert, but I know for me, I could never seem to stick to it when I planned out a quit date. I had what I fondly call a "spontaneous combustion" when I quit. I woke up one morning and realized I'd consumed WAY more than my share of drinks for a lifetime, and that I was desperately, suicidally unhappy. I thought there must be a better way.

I had never before kept a promise to myself, but I decided just for that day I wouldn't drink. That was 16 months ago.

It sounds like you're pretty unhappy in your current situation. What are you willing to do today to change it?

Wishing you the very best Avocado :ghug3
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Old 12-23-2012, 10:35 AM
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Originally Posted by SeekSobriety View Post
Hello, thanks for posting.
It sounds like you know you are pretty lucky at this point for not having been killed or having killed anyone yet from your drinking, driving etc.

This might be the last "Chance" you have. I strongly recommend that you get a referral for some in patient or intensive outpatient Rehab. This is no joke.

You are having a "Moment of Clarity" now, I would strongly suggest you take the initiative and follow through on getting yourself the help you need.

Can you speak frankly with your Doctor and ask for help? If not, I am sure there are some phone numbers for assistance which may available in your area.

Just my two cents,

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Excellent advice , Seek, I sure hope Avocado benefits from it.
I say this ALL the time and I am going to say it again---The need for Medical support is imperative to getting sober (IMOO).

AA can come later, but just the fact you have to report your progress or failure to someone face to face sure made my resolve stronger when I was trying to quit. When one has no one to answer to(Directly--f-2-f) puts a whole other spin on things. I know I was not going to go back after each week and tell her I had a drink and would have to start all over.
Although I think she just scared me sober, she was like a "Pit Bull", and I was not going to **** her off.

IMOO one should always seek one on one direction from a doctor or addiction specialist. Hopefully find a "Pit Bull" like I did. After 3 public intoxification charges, I think you may need someone to answer to who is pretty tough, and is not going to accept "Well, I might need a make-up date for my sobriety, since I think I may want to drink NYE, like, after all it's NYE", right?

Note: When you say public intoxification this is not "while in a car" rather walking around? Cause 3 DUI's with warnings only sounds like you live on another planet. What state are you in? If you don't mind answering that?
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Old 12-23-2012, 12:07 PM
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thank you everyone who poste after I went to bed last night. To answer Trixmixer - it was just walking, not driving. Though I have 2 duis also - one from 6 years ago and one from 13 years ago. I no longer drive after drinking - that's at least one thing I've been able to control. I wish I could go to a doctor or some kind of outpatient rehab but I have no health insurance or means to pay.

When I say I might drink on NYE, I am certain I can keep it to a minimum. I always can - it's the next day after the first night that starts the problems - I feel hungover so I go get a 12 pack to ease the pain of it. However, I know I can avoid that, so I don't see too much of an issue with having a few drinkins on NYE, though I certainly agree it would really be better not to.

My mind works in this weird way where significant dates I can stick to better than just random dates. so, 1/1/13 would be a good day for me to officially start. I am certain I can stick to it this time because I want to now more than ever and I thank all for the support so far.

One thing I need to deal with is the guilt of the recent past - the past I'm still actually dealing with - past that is actually present. I know it's better to not dwell on the past, but it's hard. Does anyone have any tips for that?

this is a good time for me because I drove to my parents for the holidays and they don't drink, so I'll be here til tuesday night or maybe wednesday morning. they live in the woods so nowhere to walk to to drink and I have the willpower to avoid going into town. also just being here makes me mentally healthier than being at my apartment. anyway, thank you again everyone for all you've said.
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Old 12-24-2012, 06:01 AM
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Hi Avocado,

Maybe that's your answer--FAMILY! When you are ready perhaps you can just go home to what seems like a very loving and supportive family. It just would be ashame if you have stayed sober thru Wed at their home not to just remain there thru NYE. Then you may have broken the cycle of needing the alcohol in you system. It would give you a better chance for a head start at getting sober.

Either way--Family--is a wonderful support system when your ready!

Wishing you Sucess at Sobriety in 2013!:ghug3
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Old 12-24-2012, 06:26 AM
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Would'nt it be wonderful to wake up the first day of the new year without a hangover? Just imagine how empowered you will feel. New Tradition.
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Old 12-24-2012, 10:19 AM
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First, Merry Christmas! I know you mentioned that you are currently looking for a job until your lease is up, and it sounds being with your family is a safe place for you. Would it be possible to stay with them until you move? Maybe you can talk to your landlord about breaking the lease a little early?

Whether it is today or 1/1/13 glad you are back.
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