If you could give a newcomer 1 gift you receive from your sobriety, what would it be?
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Originally Posted by EternalQ 
What would you give to a newcomer from your sobriety?
I then did, to the best of my ability, what they told me to do... like it or not.
All the best.
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I'd give him/her a pat on the back, a hug and my hopes and prayers for a successful recovery. This is a season of hopes, but also of fears, of memories, some good, some not so good, of regrets and, hopefully, thankfulness. As for me, I hope to make the best of what remains-"The Remains of the Day".
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The knowledge that it can be done, I tried so many times and failed but thankfully I kept trying. It is not a myth, it is not just for the other ones that are much stronger and better and more successful than me, there was space on the sober side of life for me to and it can be done! :-)
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I would give them detachment.
With detachment in the early months, they would know that they are not their addiction and they are not their wild emotions, or their impulses or their desperate thoughts.
I would want them to know that there is something real and true in their essence, underneath all that "stuff".
With detachment in the early months, they would know that they are not their addiction and they are not their wild emotions, or their impulses or their desperate thoughts.
I would want them to know that there is something real and true in their essence, underneath all that "stuff".
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I would like to give a newcomer, this:
The will to listen to your gut, to that still small voice, and follow it.
Don't put anyone elses opinion about your decision to get sober ahead of your own. Don't.
Trust yourself.
The will to listen to your gut, to that still small voice, and follow it.
Don't put anyone elses opinion about your decision to get sober ahead of your own. Don't.
Trust yourself.
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The knowledge that it is normal to be scared.... but to let go of alcohol anyway... because sobriety won't come until they show thsy are serious by letting go of alcohol.
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Originally Posted by EternalQ
I would like to give a newcomer, this:
The will to listen to your gut, to that still small voice, and follow it.
Don't put anyone elses opinion about your decision to get sober ahead of your own. Don't.
Trust yourself.
The will to listen to your gut, to that still small voice, and follow it.
Don't put anyone elses opinion about your decision to get sober ahead of your own. Don't.
Trust yourself.
I would give regained self-respect and self-confidence.
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A deeper relationship with God, and your greater purpose, which we all have. being here is just one of them. You can't find that when you numb your soul. This took me a long time to figure out, but once I really got that, it helps the inside of me feel better.
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