never felt so helpless
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Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: NYC
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welcome to SR. There is a lot of help on here, many people who thought just as you do, that they couldn't stop drinking and were able to.
There are different methods discussed on this site - AA, Rational Recovery, some others. The most important thing, in my opinion, is to not go it alone. Find some support system to help you. It is easier when you talk with others going through the same problem and learn how they were able to stop.
There are different methods discussed on this site - AA, Rational Recovery, some others. The most important thing, in my opinion, is to not go it alone. Find some support system to help you. It is easier when you talk with others going through the same problem and learn how they were able to stop.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,618
I know the feeling well.......and for me it lasted a long time.
But guess what? I usually do not feel hopeless anymore at all. I still do have my moods, but overall, my attitude now is much more hopeful.
So helpless CAN turn into hopeful
But guess what? I usually do not feel hopeless anymore at all. I still do have my moods, but overall, my attitude now is much more hopeful.
So helpless CAN turn into hopeful
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: United Kingdom.
Posts: 3,007
Welcome to SR.
If you have the desire to stop drinking you are not helpless.I felt like you once,today I choose to not pick up the first drink.
Lots of support on here and different recovery methods used.
Stick with us.We are here for you.
If you have the desire to stop drinking you are not helpless.I felt like you once,today I choose to not pick up the first drink.
Lots of support on here and different recovery methods used.
Stick with us.We are here for you.
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,044
Welcome Helpless! You will find a ton of support on this site, wonderful people and lots of wisdom.
I think each of us has felt helpless many times in the past. This is a great resource, but I agree with Duane that having a plan is important. Read around to see what will work for you. Looking forward to seeing you on SR and when you change your username to hopeful!!!
I think each of us has felt helpless many times in the past. This is a great resource, but I agree with Duane that having a plan is important. Read around to see what will work for you. Looking forward to seeing you on SR and when you change your username to hopeful!!!
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
Posts: 4,768
Originally Posted by helpless1023 
i have never felt so helpless in my life i'm a strong person but i can't seem to stop brinking any help ? please
All the best.
Bob R
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: USA
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welcome! welcome!
i would think everyone here has felt hopeless at one time or another, some more than others. i have felt that way for sure. if you don't know what formal programs are available - i think every one of them has a thread here on SR. you could look thru those posts and see if anything clicks for you. or ... there are quite a few just working their own program.... doing what works for them. my journey is a "do-it-yourselfer" one. best wishes to you .... and i really don't think you are as helpless as you feel - key word feel... feelings change ya know. figure out any little thing that makes you not feel helpless and go from there.
i would think everyone here has felt hopeless at one time or another, some more than others. i have felt that way for sure. if you don't know what formal programs are available - i think every one of them has a thread here on SR. you could look thru those posts and see if anything clicks for you. or ... there are quite a few just working their own program.... doing what works for them. my journey is a "do-it-yourselfer" one. best wishes to you .... and i really don't think you are as helpless as you feel - key word feel... feelings change ya know. figure out any little thing that makes you not feel helpless and go from there.
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Welcome!
I felt completely helpless and hopeless at the end of my drinking days. I had no idea how I was going to stop drinking but I knew I had to because everything was falling apart. Just get through the day as you said and that's a big step. What helped me in the very early days was changing my routine. My normal drinking time began right after supper, so I made myself get outside and walk. Small changes can make a difference.
I hope you keep reading and posting.
I felt completely helpless and hopeless at the end of my drinking days. I had no idea how I was going to stop drinking but I knew I had to because everything was falling apart. Just get through the day as you said and that's a big step. What helped me in the very early days was changing my routine. My normal drinking time began right after supper, so I made myself get outside and walk. Small changes can make a difference.
I hope you keep reading and posting.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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Happy to have you here, helpless. Yes, I felt the same. I'd been drinking heavily for nearly 30 yrs. when I joined here. The positive and encouraging energy that's part of SR really made me believe I could do the impossible. It took me a little while, but when I was ready I took the plunge & I've never looked back.
We know you can do it, too. Congratulations for coming here and taking this big step. You'll never regret reclaiming your life.
We know you can do it, too. Congratulations for coming here and taking this big step. You'll never regret reclaiming your life.
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