Support Systems - Male vs. Female
That bell or bike person
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: london
Posts: 4,978
I share as one drunks' sobering experience, I hope it can help another as i know how awful it can be .
As a gay man working in engineering which is a mainly heterogenious male workplace i have very robust male friendships which i don't let invade upon my sexuality or let sexuality invade upon the friendship . I know my boundaries , my friends know their boundaries .. it only ever becomes an issue if one or other party were to push those limits .
Bestwishes, M
As a gay man working in engineering which is a mainly heterogenious male workplace i have very robust male friendships which i don't let invade upon my sexuality or let sexuality invade upon the friendship . I know my boundaries , my friends know their boundaries .. it only ever becomes an issue if one or other party were to push those limits .
Bestwishes, M
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: SE Arizona
Posts: 1,099
Originally Posted by desertsong 
Wow, fellas! I appreciate the male input ... am I being naive then? I mean, I know that there are men who do go to AA to meet women and I think that's reprehensible ... but one of my friends is a 60-something old-timer who has sponsored both men and women ... I would hate to think that any guy who befriends me is looking for something else and I haven't felt that at all. Am I missing something?
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Indiana
Posts: 706
Tough question DS,
I see it both ways. I know many couples, now MARRIED, that met in the program.
I think early on in recovery it should be mostly men hang with men and women hang with women, but some of my closest friends in the program are women (and not my wife).
As with anyplace, you are going to have predators and home-wreckers thrown into the mix. I wish they would all start their own 12 step program.
And it's believed in a lot of circles that Bill W. probably might have been better off hanging out with men only, as he was the first 13th stepper. We are not saints.
IMO, if it helps you stay sober, keep the relationship.
Zube
I see it both ways. I know many couples, now MARRIED, that met in the program.
I think early on in recovery it should be mostly men hang with men and women hang with women, but some of my closest friends in the program are women (and not my wife).
As with anyplace, you are going to have predators and home-wreckers thrown into the mix. I wish they would all start their own 12 step program.
And it's believed in a lot of circles that Bill W. probably might have been better off hanging out with men only, as he was the first 13th stepper. We are not saints.
IMO, if it helps you stay sober, keep the relationship.
Zube
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