lilgolden73

My husband will be gone 2 years in December and I have been trying to make it easy for his family to have a relationship with our daughter but yet again they have left her out of almost everything.....grrrr...I may relapse this holiday season....or end up in jail...or maybe both...my heart breaks for my little one

Dee74

I'm not really familiar with your backstory but getting drunk or ending up in jail is not going to help you're daughter Lola.

We can't make anyone else behave the way we want them to - sad but true...but you can be the best parent your daughter will ever have

stay strong...and lean on us, or other support if you think you need it

D

lilgolden73

Oh...I was being dramatic....shocker I know Karma is a bigger beotch then I could ever be so.I will sit back and wait for her to work her magic

lilgolden73

my husband died suddenly 2 days before Christmas in 2010....

Dee74

I know I probably said it before but sorry for your loss.

D

lilgolden73

Thanks, He was from a very large Irish Catholic family....who like to portray themselves as a close/loving family....whatever I am done with trying.

elihoping

Lola, that's really tough. I'm sorry to hear that. x

lilgolden73

Thanks, I bent over backwards for these people just so my daughter could have a relationship with them and they continue to leave her out...their loss!

Pondlady

How old is she Lola?

lilgolden73

She is old enough to know these people unfortunately, I hate to say it but I wish she would have been young enough not to know them...terrible I know..

Delilah1

Hi Lola,

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and I am sure the holidays are not easy. She is lucky to have such an amazing mom. Remember you are my sober sister. As a matter of fact, today should be Day 40 for you and that is pretty darn amazing!!!

Sending hugs.

lilgolden73

awe Delilah...Thanks so much! I need all the support I can get this holiday season. I am tired of dealing with this and mad at my husband for being gone....grrrr!!

MIRecovery

AA taught me how to deal with what you are going through. Give it a try you might like it. AA is simply a design for living sober

escapist

I like your take on it. It's their loss. Take care. I am sorry you are going through this.

Anna

Lola, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I can imagine that Christmas must be a difficult time for you. Since your husband's family ignores your daughter, maybe you and she can begin to create some memories and traditions of your own this Christmas.

lilgolden73

ThAnks CTR......there is always hope, you are turning your life around and making the necessary changes so that hopefully one day they can be in your life again!