MycoolFitz

No I am not tellling you what to do. I',m just sharing some past experiences. I have no control over anyone else nor do I want to. It is complety your life but if you were lying there bleeding I would be pounding on your chest. It is metaphorical. Not that I can spell that. I would never judge you but doesn't mean I don't have the right to care. Whatever brother

nogard

Hi CTR if your thinking about suicide then you can refer to the help at the top of the forum.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ease-read.html

If your just feeling sorry for yourself, do something different at times like that, post here, talk to others do something physical liek a brisk walk or a run

Kevin

sugarbear1

Call your AA intergroup office and ask about holiday events. There are usually marathon meetings, dinners, and get togethers for those of us without others to share the holidays with.

heathersweeds

Hey Fitz
I pretty much ended up making my own family in AA cause my biological one is hard to deal with when we are all together. So, I am cooking for about 15 recovering alkies that have no family in the area. I am grateful for this opportunity. I am grateful to have found a group of strangers that love me like a family wish you could be at our table here in NJ!

MycoolFitz

I am trying to do something like that here. I will never give up on myself or anyone else.

Pondlady

Fitz,
We really enjoyed serving the Thanksgiving breakfast at the Salvation Army in years before. This year, we're keeping things very simple. I'm looking forward to time with my husband, daily walks and naps

We're gearing up for my daughter's surgery Dec. 4, so I'm not making myself do anything for the holidays, that I don't enjoy

Cleopatra1

hey fitz,,, i will be sending ALL my cyber love and hugs to you,, everyday,,,, and im gonna pm you too,,, cos you are lvly,,, wish i was there to give you a "proper" hug tho,,, helping others is a wonderful thing to do,, you lil lovey you xxx
lv cleo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxx

renaldo

I totally ignore the holidays. I get along with my family just fine, but they're spread out around the country. I do tend to get depressed though. Not because I'm lonely, it's just the hype of the holidays and the unrelentingness of it. I'm currently working in a mall and the repetitiveness of the Christmas music puts me into a deep dark funk.

Jingle Bell Rock
I Saw Grandma Kissing Santa Claus

I could go on.

Fitz. I know people are different, but I actually like being alone. I have friends, but being single is just not a hardship for me. I've been single my whole life, so I'm totally used to it. My siblings are all considerably older than me. They moved out of the house when I was an adolescent, so I basically grew up alone. Social gatherings are not my cup of tea. I can entertain myself.

Cleopatra1

how can you be so cruel ? geeze

jennikate

In my area, we have an Thanksgiving Alkathon. Starts Wed. and goes all the way until 2 pm on Thanksgiving day. We have dinner, meetings, breakfast, etc. I am the co chair of the meetings and am really excited to be sharing the holiday with friends and friends to be at AA.

Junebugapril

This is my first Thanksgiving alone. My daughter lived here with me until this year. I could have gone to my niece's home, but I didn't feel like driving 2 hours. I am having a small gathering the day after Thanksgiving, but I am scared it will make me want to drink. I am kind of happy to not be doing Thanksgiving. I love drinking while I cook! It will be a challenge on the day after Thanksgiving too.

Isolating the problems, the triggers will be cooking, and feeling sorry for myself because my family is not here.

Dee74

There'll be people around on SR June for help and support if it all gets too much

D

MycoolFitz

We actually havve a casino in town that serves the full thanksgiving for free to those who can't afford or choose not to pay. They don't ask for like poverty cards or any thing like that. Pay or don't, your choice.

Junebugapril

The meeting I went to today said they have an Alkathon too. I was a bit creeped out by the people there. I went to a meeting in rather a rough neighborhood. There were guys coming in late with slips of paper to be signed, and leaving early. And gang bangers talking about how they sell or sold drugs. I am going to try another meeting in my own neighborhood.

Hey, at least I went to my first meeting, right?

Yeh the holidays will be okay. I will miss cooking and drinking my little glass of wine. But I will be okay. We all will. We have each other!!!!!!

MycoolFitz

I remember getting my slips of paper signed but once signed I saw it through. The dudes got signed and ditched pissed me off.

Junebugapril

What are they getting signed?

IWillWin

Ugh. I hear you. I do have family but I'm thinking of every reason possible to avoid the forced togetherness and hoopla ... Sobriety has made me focus on ME instead of making everyone else happy and I really just want to take the day and be grateful for my sobriety, life, job and home. My in-laws are putting the pressure on for us to spend the day with them and my husband just got a rash of crap from his mom about how she never sees him/us blah blah blah. Truth be told, my husband would rather be fishing and I'd rather putter around the house and relax. My mom is close by and I'd like to spend some time with her but I see her all the time so that doesn't really matter. I just hate that society has forced us all to come together on these days...or feel guilty about it. I don't know about anyone else, but I've had enough guilt for one lifetime and I refuse to let someone else throw unwarranted guilt my way. I did enough guilt and shame these last 5 years and I'm not allowing it anymore.

Yes, we will be talked about and people will be pissed but we both don't want to go and we are not. That simple. At least it is for us...for them, not so much.

Sigh...never easy but these days my sobriety comes first and being there in a tense situation to begin with combined with booze everywhere is not in my future. Funny, I have that reason for not wanting to go and my husband just really doesn't want to deal with the inevitable guilt-laden lecture he will get from his mom about how he chooses other things over their family.

Wow, that turned into a longer post than I expected! Lol!

MycoolFitz

I was getting court ordered AA because of a DUI. Most guys got theirs signed early and were out the door. I figured I would try to get something out of it. It was pretty shaming in a way but I did the crime.

MycoolFitz

Yes I am a homess feeder but for two weeks i could not even look at solid food but 2nd solid meal in two nights so it is getting better. Just in time.

MycoolFitz

We'll have to have an SR on-line get together. I make a good dressing.