Bazerington

I'm finding it difficult at the moment, particularly it being a saturday night and being stuck in!! :-)
I just find that lately I feel quite lonely and insular. I go to at least three meetings a week, I have started running and have good friends, but I have this vague sense of nagging loneliness, which has haunted me since childhood. I get a bit down thinking people are cuddled up and close (how bad does that sound?! I mean, I just wish I could feel close to people...)
Does it get any better or easier?

Elisabeth888

Pickbup that phone and call people on the phone list! That is what I do when I am lonely.

IndaMiricale

For me I go to meetings , meeting, and more meetings..

Thru the 16 months of this journey my network of friends is just amazing due to the others in AA. There is never a weekend with nothing to do and do it with other people going thru the same things.

Natom

Facebook, I have people who live in different time zones on my friends list. So if I happen to be awake at 4am because I can't sleep someone will be online and willing to talk to me. On the whole physical aspect of friendship I normally try to make new friends by trying new hobbies and going to different places than I would normally go to.

MsJax

Hi bazerington I have had those feelings since I was a child & now I'm 44 & have over 17 months sober. It's frustrating sometimes too as in my work life I am very out going & social, I have to be, yet I feel very lonely & disconnected much of the time. I guess I do not have any good advice, just wanted you to know I understand.

Lost3000

I go to meetings almost daily. I can really relate to how you are feeling. I had that feeling for a very long time. It went away with some sobriety under my belt. That and, I began to make friends by going to meetings more often. I hope things begin to feel better for you. You really have to get out there to make friends.

sugarbear1

Saturday night meeting and going out with a group of sober people afterwards! It helps!!

MycoolFitz

Yes lonelness is a big issue and insomnia for me I try to be of service i check out SR listen to music a lot did not know you were a music man Dee, very impressed. I write songs and stories in my head but don't write them down anymore. I had a book accepted for publication but after that my writing just froze.

least

Don't laugh, but my dogs and cats keep me from being lonely. They are always near me and their devotion is so heartfelt. I don't mind if I get visitors or not as my critters are always with me. Don't get me wrong, I have quite a few good friends, I just don't go out much.

How early are you in recovery? Emotions in early recovery can be very up and down. That gets better with time.

lilac0721

I go to meetings, make phone calls (believe me that's hard, but I'm learning it's really enjoyable talking to other people) and if there's nothing else available, I check in here on SR! The chat feature can be quite helpful.

RevivingOphelia

good question and something i am currently facing :/

i have found a few friends via online forums like this--political/social etc in nature. once you start posting, sometimes you can make a friend or two and exchange ***** IM's...it's nice to sit around and chit chat via the net...makes one feel not so alone in the world.