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Old 10-18-2012, 03:36 AM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because every time I've been in active addiction mode (to alcohol, cigarettes, or a relationship, or at times all three) then my personal self growth freezes and growth halts.

Stop the addiction and my personal growth starts humming along again.

I have to wonder if my recent return of strong cravings are actually a desire to block anxiety over more personal growth occurring.

Hmmnn EQ... That is worth a look.
Wow, this hit home. I have tears in my eyes. I can't do moderation because I never do anything in moderation. Being sober makes me feel strong where drinking makes me feel guilty and out of control.
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Old 10-18-2012, 03:59 AM
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as soon as i ingest alcohol it dominates my thoughts and actions. better to just let others drink it and not touch it myself.
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Old 10-18-2012, 04:24 AM
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Like so many others, moderation does not work for me because, while sometimes I enjoy 2 beers, what I really want is a bottle of whiskey or a couple of bottles of wine over the course of a day. And that much alcohol is definitely not good.

So, here I am .........
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Old 10-18-2012, 04:42 AM
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Moderation is not an option for me because for me, there is no such thing.
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Old 10-18-2012, 09:04 AM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because there is no such thing in my vocabulary. It's a total lie. No such thing as one drink. If I have one, then I'll just keep on going and making up b.s. excuses as to why I want/can have another.
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Old 10-19-2012, 04:46 PM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because I didn't want just a drink here and there. I wanted that feeling i got after several, when I would numb out to my feelings and I would ignore all my problems and responsibilities.

I am still cleaning up the messes I made from that behavior. I cannot risk brinking my life to the brink of ruin again. I don't want to feel desperate anymore.
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Old 10-19-2012, 05:13 PM
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Moderation is not for me because I can't do anything in moderation .......except for maybe work...I am also not going back to Day 1 again.....I also liked to change the rules when trying to moderate.... when I drink I stop growing...so I can't drink in moderation.
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Old 10-19-2012, 05:13 PM
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...because for this alcoholic 1 is too many and 1000 is not enough. Tried to moderate many, many times before coming to a place of acceptance.
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Old 10-19-2012, 05:15 PM
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Because I decided that I will never drink again, and nothing on this earth can make me change my mind...
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Old 10-19-2012, 05:35 PM
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Because I'm an alcoholic and it's the first one that gets me every time
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Old 10-23-2012, 06:43 PM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because, my preoccupation with whether I can moderate proves to me that I am an alcoholic and cannot moderate!
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Old 10-23-2012, 07:06 PM
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Originally Posted by EternalQ View Post
Moderation is NOT an option for me, because:

Because the only way for me to learn new ways to cope, was to quit alcohol totally. If it is never an option, then I am forced to change.

Because once I start, within a short time, I cannot stop.

Because it is more of a relief to just ban it totally than to keep track of my use. Tracking my use is still making it the "center of my life."

Because alcohol has changed my brain and my brain cannot moderate it now.
YES YES YES! Finally realizing that 'controlling' was exhausting if not impossible.
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Old 10-23-2012, 09:23 PM
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I only ever drank to change the way I felt
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Old 10-24-2012, 01:36 AM
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Moderation is NOT an option for me, because Step 1
I am powerless over alcohol and it makes my life unmanageable.
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Old 10-24-2012, 05:45 PM
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Because whenever I think about the idea, even briefly entertain it in my mind, I start feeling very anxious, depressed, sad, and lose my center. : (

... Just THINKING about it. I don't want to feel like that!
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Old 11-01-2012, 11:38 AM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because anyone (like me) who "fantasizes" about being able to moderate their drinking, is obviously someone who has a dangerously risky relationship with alcohol...
And therefore should just stay away from it and move on with life!
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Old 11-01-2012, 11:41 AM
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Because one almost always leads to more, and if it doesn't, it just leads to shame and guilt and wondering why I bothered.
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Old 11-01-2012, 11:42 AM
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Moderation is not an option for me: and I know it because at the end of my drinking I gave up on moderation and just drank until it was gone, or I was gone....
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Old 11-01-2012, 11:52 AM
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Moderation isn't an option for me because I drank to get drunk...and I wouldn't even feel anything with 1 or 2 drinks so what would be the point. I could try to change "moderation" to mean getting wasted once every 2-3 months instead of 2-3 times a week...but I don't want to treat my body like that again and I don't want alcohol to control me anymore.
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Old 11-01-2012, 12:25 PM
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Just recently tried to moderate started ok for the first week, then I started changing my rules to suite my moderation ie I will only drink 21 units in a week, then after two days my 21 units would be done it would be well I haven't drunk much in the last 6 months I'll be ok. Within 2 weeks iam drinking to black out and hanging over the toilet puking my guts out!!!

And because when iam moderating it I can't enjoy it, and when I enjoy it I can't moderate it!!!
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