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Moderation is not an option for me, because_______?

Old 10-15-2012, 03:48 PM
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l can moderate.... for a while...
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Old 10-15-2012, 03:49 PM
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Moderation is drinking, nothing more nothing less.

I do not drink anymore.
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Old 10-15-2012, 03:49 PM
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Because I've been there, done that and ended up drinking more while I was in "moderation" than I did BEFORE I got sober the first time! No way, no how!
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Old 10-15-2012, 04:11 PM
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Moder-what? lol
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Old 10-15-2012, 06:06 PM
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It is too energy consuming....much rather put that energy to use doing productive things that don't involve drinking!
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Old 10-15-2012, 06:16 PM
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Moderation is not for me because one is too many and 20 isn't enough.
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Old 10-15-2012, 07:01 PM
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Moderation to me is a fancy word for "I can control it".

Moderation turns into 12 every night.

Moderation means I am on Day 3 of sobriety again and it STINKS to be at the bottom of the mountain looking up.

Moderation as a word associated with drinking for me, no longer exist.

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Old 10-15-2012, 07:41 PM
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Because I've tried it 8000 times already. If I could make it work, I would have by now.

The truth is I have no interest in moderation. I drank to get drunk. One glass of wine seems pointless to me.
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Old 10-15-2012, 11:47 PM
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Moderation is not an option for me because moderation to me would mean not being able to drink as much as I would want. Plus just a few and my animal side would come right back and take over that night. That would probably end after a month or when the money ran out. Real bad idea.
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Old 10-15-2012, 11:52 PM
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It's not an option for me because I have no interest in it. I don't like the way one or two beers makes me feel. I like the way wasted feels, and I like the way sober feels. Moderation makes me anxious. Sometimes sober does too.

I have no interest in one or two beers. When I was drinking, when I was invited someplace where it was only appropriate to have one or two and then do something else without more alcohol available, forget it. I'd pass it up or if I had to go, I'd drink iced tea or water.

I was a bar girl for sure. I liked to put the pedal to the metal.
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Old 10-16-2012, 12:05 AM
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moderation is not an option for me because I tried it way too many times. If something failes continuesly it's time to try something else.
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Old 10-16-2012, 04:20 PM
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Because it is too risky. I have come too far. Why risk it for sips of alcohol? WHO DOES THAT?
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Old 10-16-2012, 04:24 PM
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Moderation is no an option for me, because, I drink to blot out life, not to have just one.
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Old 10-17-2012, 10:19 PM
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Moderation is not an option for me, because every time I've been in active addiction mode (to alcohol, cigarettes, or a relationship, or at times all three) then my personal self growth freezes and growth halts.

Stop the addiction and my personal growth starts humming along again.

I have to wonder if my recent return of strong cravings are actually a desire to block anxiety over more personal growth occurring.

Hmmnn EQ... That is worth a look.
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Old 10-17-2012, 10:31 PM
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I have SR to thank for stopping the moderation bus for me.

It made me obsess over alcohol...I didn't enjoy drinking when I was "moderating" because all my thoughts were tuned to deciding how much I could have, renegotiating the limit, losing the line, etcetera.
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Old 10-17-2012, 10:45 PM
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Very helpful posts.
My XABF last week moderated to 2+1, then increased to 4 & by the end of the week was going away for the weekend to 2 parties.
Your experiences make me realise it was never going to work by cutting down.
Thanks.
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Old 10-17-2012, 11:46 PM
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All off the above

Thanx folks, threads like these makes me stronger.
They just reaffirm to tell that little voice, shut up, go away it's over.
We've all tried and tested it a million times, it does not work.

Have a great day everyone
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Old 10-18-2012, 12:31 AM
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I've never really wanted to drink moderately. I want to get ****** up, feel high, and erase the bad feelings of life. I want to get numb and careless. And alcohol was my best friend for many years. It turned on me, and now, we are finished. It doesn't do for me what it once did, so theres absolutely no reason to go back to it. It just lead to more pain, more problems, more dysfunction and I desperately am willing to live life soberly.
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Old 10-18-2012, 01:55 AM
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Because I've tried it 8000 times already. If I could make it work, I would have by now.

The truth is I have no interest in moderation. I drank to get drunk. One glass of wine seems pointless to me.
I too have never understood WHY anyone would bother having one or two.
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Old 10-18-2012, 03:09 AM
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Moderation?!
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