Big AA Question
Belgian Sheepdog Adictee
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: In Today
Posts: 6,101
Yes, you sure do have a chance!!
As to your sponsor. Yes, find a new sponsor, however, if it were me, I would con-
tinue to call every few days just to let my former sponsor know I still cared for
them very much and would be there when they wanted to try again.
Who knows, somewhere down the road you might become his sponsor, lol after
all stranger things than that have happened, lol
I will say a prayer for your sponsor and for you. This is one of those happenings
where you can truly say: "there but for the grace of HP go I."
That really had to throw you for a loop and I am sorry that it happened, but since
it has, it can also be a good learning tool for you.
Love and hugs,
As to your sponsor. Yes, find a new sponsor, however, if it were me, I would con-
tinue to call every few days just to let my former sponsor know I still cared for
them very much and would be there when they wanted to try again.
Who knows, somewhere down the road you might become his sponsor, lol after
all stranger things than that have happened, lol
I will say a prayer for your sponsor and for you. This is one of those happenings
where you can truly say: "there but for the grace of HP go I."
That really had to throw you for a loop and I am sorry that it happened, but since
it has, it can also be a good learning tool for you.
Love and hugs,
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Whoa!
Unless you actually saw him drinking...it's not yet a fact.
Relax..pray he is sober and call to check on him tomorrow.
Prayers going out for both of you...
Unless you actually saw him drinking...it's not yet a fact.
Relax..pray he is sober and call to check on him tomorrow.
Prayers going out for both of you...
Member
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Portland, OR
Posts: 1,635
You do have a chance! Let this just be yet another warning.
I have to stay on top of my recovery no matter what is going on in my life. If it becomes second....I drink. That is my pattern. Maybe it is yours also?
I have to stay on top of my recovery no matter what is going on in my life. If it becomes second....I drink. That is my pattern. Maybe it is yours also?
Member
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: South Boston
Posts: 547
I sound and act drunk when I am really tired.
Maybe with all the stress he's under he simply sounded drunk from lack of sleep? I've been known to slur a few words and even forget conversations when I've been really really tired.
Try not to jump to any conclusions, if you get confirmation that he has fallen off the wagon or you are just uncomfortable then get a new sponsor but try not to get ahead of yourself
Maybe with all the stress he's under he simply sounded drunk from lack of sleep? I've been known to slur a few words and even forget conversations when I've been really really tired.
Try not to jump to any conclusions, if you get confirmation that he has fallen off the wagon or you are just uncomfortable then get a new sponsor but try not to get ahead of yourself
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Here, Now
Posts: 4,268
I called him back and he just said yea he had been drinking. We are going to a meating together tomorrow but I am going to help me with my homeless lunches we all need to pay our dues.
Self recovered Self discovered
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Toronto Canada
Posts: 5,148
Fitz, don't discount yourself, and who you are. You are a product of every experience you have ever had, and you have had some doozies, and this makes you unique. Any support you can give this guy might be extra important to him because of your relationship, you might just hit a home run. Speak from your heart and trust your gut. You will do great.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Washington
Posts: 456
"All we are granted is a "daily reprieve" based on our spiritual condition."
I've seen some miserable at 18 months and drinking at 20. I've seen others go through miserable times and remain sober. Fortunately, it is up to each of us to decide how "spiritually fit" or sick we wish to be regardless of the circumstances of life.
As an AA'r as well, I find it's time like this that digging back into the "work" of the steps can build the foundation for long term recovery.
I'm sorry to hear you have these concerns with your sponsor. But just as we can't get sober for our friends, we don't have to drink over them either - and that's a wonderful thing.
I've seen some miserable at 18 months and drinking at 20. I've seen others go through miserable times and remain sober. Fortunately, it is up to each of us to decide how "spiritually fit" or sick we wish to be regardless of the circumstances of life.
As an AA'r as well, I find it's time like this that digging back into the "work" of the steps can build the foundation for long term recovery.
I'm sorry to hear you have these concerns with your sponsor. But just as we can't get sober for our friends, we don't have to drink over them either - and that's a wonderful thing.
Recovered from Hopeless State
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: New Jersey, USA
Posts: 2,156
My second sponsor was sober several years, relapsed for a few and was sober several more when he became my sponsor. Although I haven't seen him in a while, because I haven't been going to meetings, I'm very confident I'll see him tomorrow night when I will go to a meeting walking distance from me.
As for your sponsor. I agree with the others here, time for a new one. Maybe you'll see your current one again, maybe not. Don't let this endanger your sobriety.
As for your sponsor. I agree with the others here, time for a new one. Maybe you'll see your current one again, maybe not. Don't let this endanger your sobriety.
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