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Elisabeth888 10-08-2012 03:51 AM

My Mom passed away
 
after a long battle with breast cancer.

I am so effing sad. I knew it was going to happen, but it is hitting me like a ton of bricks.

I had a dream about her last night and I woke up at 5 a.m. crying. I hate showing emotions and they are just pouring out like rain.

I am not going to drink. She was proud of me for being sober and that is no way to cope with this. I think I would have a nervous breakdown.

mecanix 10-08-2012 03:59 AM

Hello Elizabeth,

Sorry about your mum. I think we're allowed to be emotional after someone close passes away.
One thing at a time , one moment at a time is the only way i've got through in the past.

Today you are my hero for being so strong and deciding not to drink , thank you, M

MycoolFitz 10-08-2012 03:59 AM

I am so sorry. All I can give you is my. love and care.

Sapling 10-08-2012 04:10 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss Elisabeth888......Maybe it's better the fighting it is over....And I'm sure not drinking would be what she'd want. Sending you prayers for strength and peace Elisabeth888...Take care of yourself and stay close to family and friends.

Elisabeth888 10-08-2012 04:13 AM

Thanks everyone for your thoughts!

I am going to a meeting today. She just passed last night.

I am not sure I can share about it, but being there is going to help. She was proud of me for going to AA.

Hollyanne 10-08-2012 04:20 AM

My condolences Elizabeth,
I am very sorry for your loss.
Glad you are not drinking.
:candle6D:

ashbyee 10-08-2012 04:23 AM

Elisabeth888,
I am so sorry about your mum. I am not sure that"knowing" it is going to happen helps us to prepare. Watching a loved one go through a long illness is very emotional and stressful. Your sadness is overwhelming - at best- but you are doing it sober and I for one, really look up to you. again, I am so sorry.
Hugs, ash

Soberween 10-08-2012 04:25 AM

I'm so sorry, Elisabeth. That is so sad. My mother had breast cancer from the time I was four until she passed away 23 years later. I HATE cancer! As you do with with your recovery,take your loss one day at a time. It took me a full year to get through it. All the major "firsts" .... Christmas, birthdays, Mother's Day, graduations, etc. It is so hard, but you are a very strong person. I can tell. We are here for you. Keep coming back.

Dee74 10-08-2012 04:26 AM

I'm very sorry Elizabeth.
Prayers for you and everyone who knew and loved your mom.

D

RV GTO 10-08-2012 04:29 AM

So sorry for your loss Elizabeth. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

Fandy 10-08-2012 04:37 AM

Even when you're prepared, you're not. I stayed sober for my mothers funeral and beyond.
i'm sorry, stay close here.

Welcomingthenew 10-08-2012 05:27 AM

I'm sending you positive thoughts and a big hug, I know it has to be so terribly painful. Be strong and keep remembering how proud your Mom was regarding you as her beloved daughter and your sobriety.

least 10-08-2012 05:29 AM

My prayers and thoughts are with you.:hug:

Sasha4 10-08-2012 05:38 AM

I am really sorry for your loss.
May your mum rest in peace after her courageous battle.

My beloved auntie passed coming up for two years ago in December.
I miss her immensly.
She was the most humble, loving woman.
I still try my hardest as I feel she is watching me and I want her to be proud.

xxxx

Wharf Rat 10-08-2012 05:46 AM

I feel so bad for you. I lost my stepfather to cancer in 2005, and it was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Be proud that she passed while you were sober, I'm sure she was proud. God Bless

onlythetruth 10-08-2012 05:56 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Cancer is so tragic.

OneLessLonely 10-08-2012 06:02 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss. Hold your memories close and know she will continue to be proud of you. Sending you hugs and strength to remain sober and process this grief.

sissy07 10-08-2012 06:11 AM

I am so very sorry. You will always miss her, and the grief is so painful to go through. It does get better with time, although it will never go away - I guess you just learn to live with it. Bless you.

Opivotal 10-08-2012 06:15 AM

((Elisabeth)) I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending out love and prayers to you and your family. :hug:



Best Wishes To You!

Beligerent 10-08-2012 06:25 AM

I'm sorry to hear about you loss Elisabeth. Something similar happened to me. With only 6 months sober my mother died and my entire alcoholic and dysfunctional family came together. I had all I could do to not drink around those people but I did it. Please stay strong and remember the good times.


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