Hi there - why I am doing this to myself?
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Hi there - why I am doing this to myself?
Hi all. I seriously need help. On paper life is amazing. I am married to a lovely man, I have two wonderful children. We have no financial worries. Yet getting tipsy (and now drunk) rules my life. Why? To be fair it always has done. I am 39. Even as a teen I used to love getting drunk. I love the feel of letting go. I hate the feeling of waking up feeling crap and agonising over what I might have said to someone. More importantly, I worry about my health. How can I stop?
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Each recovery starts with one day.
Today can be your day.
We stop drinking, we get rid of any alcohol that is in our home. We ask for help. We seek recovery programs if we are open to them.
Alcoholics Anonymous has been very helpful for me.
There are many, many women of AA that you could reach out to, and could give you guidance and direction.
I would suggest that you research the AA information for your area. We stay sober together. We accomplish together what we can not do alone.
I come to SR every day and it is so helpful to be connected here to people in recovery. If you need any help, you can pm me anytime.
Welcome to SR!
Today can be your day.
We stop drinking, we get rid of any alcohol that is in our home. We ask for help. We seek recovery programs if we are open to them.
Alcoholics Anonymous has been very helpful for me.
There are many, many women of AA that you could reach out to, and could give you guidance and direction.
I would suggest that you research the AA information for your area. We stay sober together. We accomplish together what we can not do alone.
I come to SR every day and it is so helpful to be connected here to people in recovery. If you need any help, you can pm me anytime.
Welcome to SR!
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Hi Scarlett, Welcome!
I'm glad you found us.
You can stop by not drinking today. Get rid of the alcohol in your house and don't buy anymore. It takes a lot of changing in order to recover. You might need to change friends, places, activities, anything that involved drinking. There is lots of support here and we do understand how hard it is.
I'm glad you found us.
You can stop by not drinking today. Get rid of the alcohol in your house and don't buy anymore. It takes a lot of changing in order to recover. You might need to change friends, places, activities, anything that involved drinking. There is lots of support here and we do understand how hard it is.
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Scarlett, I know it's hard. I loved the feeling alcohol gave me, until I started to need to drink just to feel normal and alcohol completely took over my life. I strongly recommend giving AA a try. You can do this, and you will love your life sober. Keep posting!
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Welcome to SR, Scarlett, congratulations on the realization that you need to change things in your life.
We can get stuck on trying to decide how to stop drinking, when it can be very very simple. If you drink when alcohol is around like I did, don't be around alcohol. Get rid of it, pouring it down the toilet seemed to be appropriate for me. All of it. Get rid of the empties too. Be aware of situations where there is alcohol around and prepare yourself to accept 'No drinks for you'. Do things that non drinkers do, whatever you think that might be.
This above all, Scarlett, beiieve that you deserve so much more out of this life ahead of you, and those that love you deserve so much more out of you. It is time to start believing in yourself. You can quit drinking if you choose to. Best to you.
We can get stuck on trying to decide how to stop drinking, when it can be very very simple. If you drink when alcohol is around like I did, don't be around alcohol. Get rid of it, pouring it down the toilet seemed to be appropriate for me. All of it. Get rid of the empties too. Be aware of situations where there is alcohol around and prepare yourself to accept 'No drinks for you'. Do things that non drinkers do, whatever you think that might be.
This above all, Scarlett, beiieve that you deserve so much more out of this life ahead of you, and those that love you deserve so much more out of you. It is time to start believing in yourself. You can quit drinking if you choose to. Best to you.
Yes it is possible to quit drinking and have a happy life again - I did.Administrator
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Hi Scarlett
There's some great advice here
SR really helped me stop and stay stopped - there's something about being part of a community, knowing you're not alone, and feeling accountable that really resonated with me
I know we can help you turn your life around too - welcome aboard!
There's some great advice here
SR really helped me stop and stay stopped - there's something about being part of a community, knowing you're not alone, and feeling accountable that really resonated with me
I know we can help you turn your life around too - welcome aboard!
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Wow. Thank you all so much. I know I can do this. I found myself hiding a bottle of wine that I had finished yesterday from my husband which is why I sought help. I stayed awake until 3am last night pondering life. I haven't yet told my husband that I think I have a problem though, and I don't want to. I don't want it to be a 'thing'. I was hoping to just stop. He drinks too much too, but seems better at controlling it than me. I guess admitting to him is half the battle though.
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