At last some zzzz's
 

Had a really depressing conversation with my wife yesterday. She is happy that I'm not drinking, have started AVRT, found sr, and have a plan in place to get sober and stay that way....but she is not ready to let me move back home. Man, I rally miss my family! But, on the positive side, as bummed as I was(and a little pissed) I did not drink. Went and ate dinner then got on the tread mill, watched a football game( first time in +/- 10 years I've done that with out a drink) read a book and went to bed. It did not take as long to fall asleep and I slept like a rock. Actually slept through my alarm this morning. Funny, I was never late for work when I was drinking. I feel great this morning. I can't wait for tonight, going to the High School football game with the family and dinner, it will be the first real time with my kids since last Saturday, and I was drinking then, so I"m not sure that counts. Oh well, looking forward to it. Have a great weekend everyone, and thanks for the support.

Sorry to hear that your wife isn't ready for you to move back in yet. It might take some time. But you'll prove to her with your actions that you're ready to get and stay sober and then she'll be more willing to trust you.

In the meantime, keep doing what you're doing. And congrats on your sober night last night!

It sounds to me like you have a pretty good grip on your life. Be aware that you have to regain her trust and this will take time and your effort to stay sober. In my opinion continue with your recovery reguardless of whats going on in your life and I think things should fall back into place at their own speed. Many don't wake up until all is lost but it sounds like you have reacted before that point.

Thanks all for the support. I'm sure this will all work out, and I know my wife needs time to work this out for here. If I wasn't selfish I would not have become an alcoholic in the first place. Trying to find a councilor with marriage and addiction experience to help us work through these issues.

NewLeaf, that's great you didn't turn to drinking when you were angry and frustrated-an important step. Good also for breaking the football game drinking habit. You're off to a great start. Enjoy the family tonight and just take it in baby steps. I bet your wife will come around. Counseling may help you work through it all, great idea if both are willing

Good luck with everything. I think I've probably lost my husband because of my alcoholism and selfishness. I hope everything works out for you. Stay strong!

ANL, congrats on 10 days!

As the wife of a man addicted to porn (and an addict myself: to narcotics) trust does take time to rebuild. I still don't have 100% trust that my husband is honest with me. You're doing the right thing in remaining sober, even if she doesn't quite trust you enough to come back home. I know it's really hard, I have a hard time being away from my kids, too.

Congrats, and keep up the good fight!

Give it time anewleafnow...our addiction affects those we love as much as it does ourselves - maybe even more so.

Our loved ones have their recovery just as we have ours....sometimes all we can do is have a little faith everything will turn out.

Focus on your recovery while you're doing that :)

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Like everyone said, it didnt take a week or a month for us to harm those people. So it doesnt heal just because we put the drink down. Actions Actions Actions, and stay sober , work on yourself and things will happen.. :)