Is it possible to commit to solitude for three years?
Jake, 19
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Devon, England
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Originally Posted by silly 
I'm jumping into this post rather late I know but wanted to share my observations...
You've gotten a ton of really great advice MightyMung. It does seem like you're making excuses for all the reasons none of it will work for you. Nothing? If you've already decided that solitude is the only thing that will work for you then no amount of advice will matter I suppose.
But I think something will! Something other than solitude because you deserve more than that. University is a time to grow and learn and experience life. You can't do that if you're hiding. I encourage you to go back and read the suggestions again and reconsider some of them. Try not to immediately find the reasons something won't work. Try to find at least one reason each could work.
Best of luck to you!
You've gotten a ton of really great advice MightyMung. It does seem like you're making excuses for all the reasons none of it will work for you. Nothing? If you've already decided that solitude is the only thing that will work for you then no amount of advice will matter I suppose.
But I think something will! Something other than solitude because you deserve more than that. University is a time to grow and learn and experience life. You can't do that if you're hiding. I encourage you to go back and read the suggestions again and reconsider some of them. Try not to immediately find the reasons something won't work. Try to find at least one reason each could work.
Best of luck to you!
My flatmates have been incredibly understanding about it, but obviously it's hard when you can hear everyone drinking upstairs and gaining the advantage of lowered inhibitions to enable them to socialise easier, while I'm downstairs not even wanting to go upstairs because it will either mean a.) standing around like a lemon, sober or b.) drunk and ruining my life.
Jake, 19
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Devon, England
Posts: 212
Originally Posted by soulgypsy
Here's 47 years of (rather shy) experience talking:
You will find in life, that you ultimately only really need a couple of true friends and you never know where you will find them-often when you least expect it! I would do whatever it is you love to do--whether that is fly-fishing, kite-making, marathon running--whatever it is, doesn't matter. Do what you love and keep your eyes, mind and your heart open. Be genuine. Be kind.
The right people will show up in your life just when you need them. Some will be your "teachers" and they will move on. Some will stick. If they stick, cherish them.
You will find in life, that you ultimately only really need a couple of true friends and you never know where you will find them-often when you least expect it! I would do whatever it is you love to do--whether that is fly-fishing, kite-making, marathon running--whatever it is, doesn't matter. Do what you love and keep your eyes, mind and your heart open. Be genuine. Be kind.
The right people will show up in your life just when you need them. Some will be your "teachers" and they will move on. Some will stick. If they stick, cherish them.
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