Notices

Short fuse

Old 09-08-2012, 06:53 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Texas
Posts: 507
Short fuse

Anyone have any tips for keeping your cool when someone is driving you crazy? My partner and I have been off of work all week and she's pretty much insisted we do everything together, right down to picking up an Rx down the street. I like to do things alone and I want to be able to take my time when I'm out an about. But whenever I try to go alone she guilt trips me by insisting I just want to sneak off to drink or if that's not it I must not want her around. So I don't go alone. Now it's Saturday, 8 days into our "vacation" and I'm going insane. Snapping at everything, hardly talking and fuming inside. We've already had two big blow ups where I accused her of being controlling and manipulative. Her response is that I'm a drunk that can't be trusted. I don't blame her for not trusting me, she's got every right not to trust. I know I'm not sneaking off to drink but I totally know why she thinks so.

But it's hurting not helping. And I think deep down it can't be helping her to act this way either. But that's a bigger issue. We've got couples therapy in the works for that. In the meantime, any advice on how to grin and bare it through the weekend without hurting her with another blow up? I need to lengthen my very short fuse this morning so I can avoid saying something I regret an so I can try and enjoy my last two days off.
silly is offline  
Old 09-08-2012, 07:37 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
Posts: 4,768
Tell her how you feel without blame or judging. Suggest compromising. As her how she's feeling.

There is nothing more vicious than a "dry, trapped" alcoholic.

I find that a meeting is the best thing for a short fuse.

All the best.

Bob R
2granddaughters is offline  
Old 09-08-2012, 08:43 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
~sb
 
sugarbear1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: MD
Posts: 15,951
Everyone needs a time-out from others, especially us newcomers to sobriety. Figure out together how to arrange some alone time.

just a suggestion

Love & hugs,
sugarbear1 is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:51 AM.