Weasel1966

Mizzuno.... My voice did shake... But no one knew it.

I had a hard time hitting the post button on this. It is raw for me. Once I did post I wanted to go back and clear it.... But the time elapsed... People had read it.

Thanks. I feel a little less invisible today.

IndaMiricale

Good morning ,

I hope you get out and enjoy the day a bit, before the hurricane weather comes up to us.And then we can stay in and watch the rain fall.

And your definately not invisable , you got lot of people on your side here...

aasharon90

That absolutely infuriates me or makes me
completely angry when people do
that to me. And that has been done to me
all my life, even today, with 22 yrs sobriety.

Not to long ago while I was talking with
my husband about something im sure
was important to me to share, broke out
in this uncontrollable cough. Right in the
middle of my sentence and it continued,
so I stopped talking. When he finally stopped,
never did he say, i apologize and go ahead
continue what you were saying.

I sat there building up a resentment, just
letting what had happened to me soak deep
inside my heart that if i would have allowed
it to simmer longer and alcohol was available,
i may have lost my will and any source of
defense against that first drink.

After being quiet for a little while and was
asked what was wrong, I unleashed my
disappointment to his actions and anger
once again and was shut upped/hushed
up from talking.

I use to experience the same treatment in
my first marriage of 25 yrs. Everyone, and
I mean everyone, completely overpowered
me with conversations like as if I wasnt
there or my words werent important to hear.

I use to say to myself that I wasnt gonna
ever speak again. Just sit there and not
say a word. Sometimes I wonder if there
is a lesson to be learned in this situation.
What is it?

Im glad to know that even after all these
yrs sober, Im not alone on my journey and
that there are others who are dealing with
many of the same isues in life as I and no
matter how difficult things in life may be,
drinking wont make it better.

Weasel1966

Sharon... I am sorry you had to deal with that. No voice should be silenced. Let your voice be heard here. It Is. I know it is. I hear it.

All my best to you.

Ken

MsJax

This is a really good thread, thank you weasel . For me, it is a good reminder that we all deserve to be listened to & validated as people. I work with the public, 11-12 hour shifts at times & in my exhaustion & frustration recognize that sometimes I can be dismissive. Maybe I'm the only person someone will have contact with on any given day! I need to make it positive, even when it is trying. What I give I will receive

Soberween

A very eloquent, well thought post, Weasel. Thanks you for sharing.