21 Days Under My Belt - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read





Reply
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 08-27-2012, 10:08 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 65

21 Days Under My Belt


I have been sober for three weeks now. I can't tell you what a difference this has made in my life. First off, my relationships are so much better. I think this is because my relationship is better with myself. I have taken stabs at sobriety before, but always under the pretense of controlling it long enough (or abstaining long enough) to start back up and just have a couple of drinks at a time (be a normal drinker). This time I just feel different. I have accepted and internalized the fact that I am not a normal drinker. I am ok with that. That acceptance has really simplified things in terms of staying sober. Instead of trying not to drink with the thought of trying to control my drinking when I start again, I just focus on not drinking. It is much easier this way. When I have a craving, the dialog is short and sweet. I think "nope, I will not put that drink up to my lips because I know where it will lead me," not "well, I don't know if I can control it today, I may put down this craving and give in tomorrow, maybe I'll be ready then" (leaving a glimmer of drinking hope open.

As I said in previous posts, I was pretty physically active while drinking (yes madness at its finest). I am running a marathon in early October and a 31 mile Ultra in November. This has consumed a lot of my nervous energy. It also helps me to eat right, which has been a big factor in my drinking. I notice when I am hungry all bets are off.

I don't post here everyday, but I log on multiple times a day and read the stories of hope and stumbles. Thanks to everyone. We can all do this. Believe me, if I can, anyone can. Just three weeks ago I was living a complete lie and flushing my life down the toilet. Folks at the grocery store must be wondering where that nice baker is that used to come in and buy all that vanilla extract.
melberholtz is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 10 Users Say Thank You to melberholtz For This Useful Post:
auden67 (08-27-2012), CaiHong (08-27-2012), Grace2 (08-27-2012), katan (08-27-2012), mecanix (08-27-2012), MemphisBlues (08-27-2012), PippoRossi (08-27-2012), Salacia (08-27-2012), soberbrooke (08-27-2012), Weasel1966 (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 10:14 AM   #2 (permalink)
That bell or bike person
 
mecanix's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: london
Posts: 4,985
Blog Entries: 12
Thanks melberholtz ,



Bestwishes, M
__________________
Ups and downs still happen, it's how we deal with them that counts. gave up sept 2011
The cards of life won't break my hand, so let's pull on the freedom bell and ring.
mecanix is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 10:21 AM   #3 (permalink)
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 51,929
Yes, we can!

Congratulations, and good luck with your marathon!
__________________
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

Marianne Williamson
Anna is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Anna For This Useful Post:
mecanix (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 10:38 AM   #4 (permalink)
Run to live... live to run
 
Live2Run25's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Western Maryland
Posts: 1,091
Blog Entries: 5
good luck!!! I have 4 races this fall!! it's exciting and something to focus on.
__________________
-Britt

Over 3 years Sober and still going strong....

First time Mommy to a beautiful Daughter born 6/23/14. I couldn't be happier!!!

1x Full marathoner
9x Half marathoner


Quit for good 6/3/2012
Live2Run25 is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Live2Run25 For This Useful Post:
mecanix (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 10:42 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
hypochondriac's Avatar
 

Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: UK
Posts: 5,664
Well done Melberholtz! And good luck with that marathon. You're making me feel positively lazy! x
__________________


'The less I needed, the better I felt' - Charles Bukowski
hypochondriac is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to hypochondriac For This Useful Post:
jobei (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 10:50 AM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: New England
Posts: 1,061
Blog Entries: 13
You are really going to own those races now lookout!
jobei is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 10:52 AM   #7 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: New England
Posts: 1,061
Blog Entries: 13
Quote:
Originally Posted by hypochondriac View Post
Well done Melberholtz! And good luck with that marathon. You're making me feel positively lazy! x
Yes me too.. although I walked to the post office today! (from my car)
jobei is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 10:56 AM   #8 (permalink)
Member
 
Pigtails's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 1,193
Hurray for you! This is great, thanks for sharing!

I too have had stints (my longest was nearly 8 months!) at sobriety before but this time I am realizing I just cannot drink ever, period, and that I need to change a lot of my actions and ways of thinking, more than just drinking. I want to run a half marathon for my birthday in December. I had just mentioned this to my boyfriend this morning and then I saw your post which cemented my decision. Thank you for inspiring me!
Pigtails is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Pigtails For This Useful Post:
Grace2 (08-27-2012), soberbrooke (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 11:01 AM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 65
Thanks for the kind words everyone. The marathons are nothing compared to our sobriety.
melberholtz is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to melberholtz For This Useful Post:
Grace2 (08-27-2012), hypochondriac (08-27-2012), PippoRossi (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 11:03 AM   #10 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Warwickshire, UK
Posts: 217
Wow - congratulations, truly inspirational, x
Veggiejojo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 01:13 PM   #11 (permalink)
Member
 
TTBABP's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Central New Jersey, USA
Posts: 1,345
I still have not quit. I went back to read your other threads and I see myself (as I am sure many others do) in your words. I do not want to put any uneccesary pressure on you but I have to tell you seeing that you have made it three weeks gives me so much hope.

I have no right to say that I am proud of you when I have not been able to do it myself but ---"I am so proud of you!"
TTBABP is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to TTBABP For This Useful Post:
Grace2 (08-27-2012), MemphisBlues (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 01:29 PM   #12 (permalink)
A simple guy making his way
 
Weasel1966's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Maine
Posts: 7,858
Blog Entries: 39
I have to admit that when I first read the vanilla extract post I had to take in that there are so many ways we can exploit this whole thing. I remember the post distinctly.

I am happy for you that you have come this far. It sounds like you, Being a marathon runner, should know best how to go the distance.

I certainly see you doing that with abstinence.

Congrats!
Weasel1966 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 01:41 PM   #13 (permalink)
Member
 

Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 65
Quote:
Originally Posted by TTBABP View Post
I still have not quit. I went back to read your other threads and I see myself (as I am sure many others do) in your words. I do not want to put any uneccesary pressure on you but I have to tell you seeing that you have made it three weeks gives me so much hope.

I have no right to say that I am proud of you when I have not been able to do it myself but ---"I am so proud of you!"
I really appreciate this. I did the same thing, and for a long time. By that I mean, reading other people's posts and seeing myself. It took me a long time to get to the point I was at. Drinking copious amounts of alcohol, in any form I could get my hands on, I might add. It also took me a LONG time to realize (1) how bad the problem was, and (2) how I needed to re-characterize my relationship with alcohol. Another thing I did, and one that sticks with me every day is to put myself in the shoes of the ones I love. I spend a lot of time reading on the Friends and Family of Alcoholics section and that is one place I see myself (hopefully my old self). Looking at it over the last three weeks has made me feel so bad about some of the crap I pulled while under the influence, and that has strengthened my resolve to stay sober. Friends drinking, work events, nothing will pull me into that relm where I will treat the ones I love like that again.

Keep chugging along and I will do the same. You have the intention. You have put out the thought to quit drinking. Sometimes it takes a bit of time to get traction, but when it does, hold on, because you are on for a great ride. Take care!
melberholtz is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to melberholtz For This Useful Post:
Grace2 (08-27-2012), mecanix (08-27-2012), TTBABP (08-27-2012)
Old 08-27-2012, 03:59 PM   #14 (permalink)
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 178,534
Blog Entries: 1
congratulations on 3 weeks

D
__________________
Dee74 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 04:03 PM   #15 (permalink)
Member
 
Grace2's Avatar
 

Join Date: May 2010
Location: Cheshire, N.W England
Posts: 6,803
Very powerful posts Melberholtz. Thank you for sharing them and good luck with your marathon. You are amazing.

Big hugs

Gxx
__________________
No longer a disgrace. Sober birthday: 19 August 2012
***

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always."
Grace2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-27-2012, 05:07 PM   #16 (permalink)
Member
 
CaiHong's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2011
Posts: 2,305
Memberholtz,
Good job. I read the labels on vanilla essence very carefully now because of you pointing out the alcohol content, I buy vanilla beans.
You sound in a wonderful frame of mind.
Love
CaiHong
CaiHong is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:25 AM.