Some Mum I am
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Some Mum I am
Husband's just discovered I'm secretly drinking again and I feel so so ashamed.....I hate myself for doing this...I also have an eating disorder.
My kids don't really know about either of these......I love them so much that I would hate to hurt them
Where do I start??? Can't afford counselling
Can I do this on my own??
Sleeping I KNOW will be a problem cos I get myself too worked up AND my husband snores, is there another mother out there like me
why me? I don't want to have these weaknesses!
My kids don't really know about either of these......I love them so much that I would hate to hurt them
Where do I start??? Can't afford counselling
Can I do this on my own??
Sleeping I KNOW will be a problem cos I get myself too worked up AND my husband snores, is there another mother out there like me
why me? I don't want to have these weaknesses!
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Where do I start??? Can't afford counselling
Can I do this on my own??
Can I do this on my own??
Welcome to SR you just landed in a wonderful place for support..
I would suggest seeing a doctor especially because the combo of drinking and eating disorder is very dangerous. I have suffered from both and I have 2 kids. I have been recovered from my eating disorder for 16 years- so it is VERY possible to get your life back!!!
AA is free and a great place for support- I found at least half the women in my women's mtg had eating disorders as well. There should also be places that can provide counceling on a sliding scale. Where I live Jewish Family Service and Catholic Charities do this and it doesn't matter what religion you are.
Welcome to this site and keep posting. You are not alone!!
Ann
AA is free and a great place for support- I found at least half the women in my women's mtg had eating disorders as well. There should also be places that can provide counceling on a sliding scale. Where I live Jewish Family Service and Catholic Charities do this and it doesn't matter what religion you are.
Welcome to this site and keep posting. You are not alone!!
Ann
Oh my word. When I started reading your post I thought I was reading about me! I am going through virtually the same thing at the moment. apart from i dont have an eating disorder. I rejoined SR on Monday after being caught out on Saturday night. I feel just like you, sad, ashamed and I can't believe this is happening to me. I didn't want or ask for this. Hate how much I'm hurting my man, my family and myself.
SR is a good place to start and gives loads of support. You've made a good start now by admitting your problem.
We can and will beat this.
Big hugs
Gxxx
SR is a good place to start and gives loads of support. You've made a good start now by admitting your problem.
We can and will beat this.
Big hugs
Gxxx
A lot of counselors can adjust their fee for people that can't afford it. Does your health insurance cover any mental health services? You can do it on your own, but I would at minimum see a doctor first. Like said above, AA is free. I'm sorry I don't know anything about eating disorders, but maybe if you were to see a counselor they'd help you work on whatever is at the root of both your drinking and eating issues.
Side note: I'm a mom too. My husband snores like a grizzly bear too. We actually sleep in separate rooms, saves both of our sanity..
Side note: I'm a mom too. My husband snores like a grizzly bear too. We actually sleep in separate rooms, saves both of our sanity..
Hi itsnever2late:
Count me in as another member of the alcohol/eating disorder crew. I had both problems at the same time for about 10 years. Recovered from the ED but kept drinking for another 15 years.
I managed not to drink during my pregnancies but started again immediately after giving birth. I remember crying as I nursed my newborns...drunk. Trying to be a good mother by nursing them but knowing I shouldn't do that while drinking...oh, it was awful. The sad thing is that I didn't stop then but kept right on going for several more years.
So yes I know the guilt and shame of this. The feeling of being trapped.
And yet I also know there is hope, because I suffer from neither condition anymore. I stopped the ED in 1983, and the alcohol in 1998 (after getting caught by my husband, so I know how THAT feels too). I did the first without any sort of treatment as frankly there was no treatment in 1983. I did the second through therapy. I found the social support of AA helpful but not the program itself.
It should be noted that there are a number of addiction recovery approaches which are free. SMART Recovery, for example, is free and has an online forum for people recovering from EDs. It might be worthwhile to look at several options.
But I can't say enough about individual therapy for the ED/addiction combo. For me, I had to process some fairly heavy stuff, childhood trauma and so forth, which really required professional help.
In any case, I KNOW that it is possible to recover, because I have done it.
Count me in as another member of the alcohol/eating disorder crew. I had both problems at the same time for about 10 years. Recovered from the ED but kept drinking for another 15 years.
I managed not to drink during my pregnancies but started again immediately after giving birth. I remember crying as I nursed my newborns...drunk. Trying to be a good mother by nursing them but knowing I shouldn't do that while drinking...oh, it was awful. The sad thing is that I didn't stop then but kept right on going for several more years.
So yes I know the guilt and shame of this. The feeling of being trapped.
And yet I also know there is hope, because I suffer from neither condition anymore. I stopped the ED in 1983, and the alcohol in 1998 (after getting caught by my husband, so I know how THAT feels too). I did the first without any sort of treatment as frankly there was no treatment in 1983. I did the second through therapy. I found the social support of AA helpful but not the program itself.
It should be noted that there are a number of addiction recovery approaches which are free. SMART Recovery, for example, is free and has an online forum for people recovering from EDs. It might be worthwhile to look at several options.
But I can't say enough about individual therapy for the ED/addiction combo. For me, I had to process some fairly heavy stuff, childhood trauma and so forth, which really required professional help.
In any case, I KNOW that it is possible to recover, because I have done it.
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Husband's just discovered I'm secretly drinking again and I feel so so ashamed.....I hate myself for doing this...I also have an eating disorder.
My kids don't really know about either of these......I love them so much that I would hate to hurt them
Where do I start??? Can't afford counselling
Can I do this on my own??
Sleeping I KNOW will be a problem cos I get myself too worked up AND my husband snores, is there another mother out there like me
why me? I don't want to have these weaknesses!
My kids don't really know about either of these......I love them so much that I would hate to hurt them
Where do I start??? Can't afford counselling
Can I do this on my own??
Sleeping I KNOW will be a problem cos I get myself too worked up AND my husband snores, is there another mother out there like me
why me? I don't want to have these weaknesses!
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I think AA or women's support groups would be a good place to go, after you talk to a doctor. It can be dangerous to withdraw from alcohol on your own.
Having a support network can help you in all kinds of ways. It's great you want to make a change for you and your family! Come here often, it will help!
Having a support network can help you in all kinds of ways. It's great you want to make a change for you and your family! Come here often, it will help!
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Yes...I was one of them. Just because you have these issues does not mean that you don't love your family. In my case, I could not control the drinking, and am slowly learning that I have to give it to something greater than myself...in fact, I had a revelation of sorts about this just last night after spending some pretty unhappy time just being dry. I can tell you that my day so far today has been much more peaceful that those in the past few weeks.
I am reading the Big Book now with an open mind. I know that there are lots of ways out there to get sober, and am starting to think that each of us just needs to find what works for us, and we will recover if we really want to. Really, I thought I was hopeless...if I am starting to see the light, I believe anyone can
I am reading the Big Book now with an open mind. I know that there are lots of ways out there to get sober, and am starting to think that each of us just needs to find what works for us, and we will recover if we really want to. Really, I thought I was hopeless...if I am starting to see the light, I believe anyone can
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