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Originally Posted by rojogonzo 
I asked you first.
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i am very glad to see ya went to a meeting and gonna assume it was AA?
if you want to stay angry, that is your choice, but i hope you dont want to. i was a rageaholic when i was drining. then, after the fog and misery started to wear off( which took a while), i started getting it back. i didnt want it. i had to stop blaming everyone and everything for the anger and get down to causes and conditions. after all, my problems with anger were my own making, not anyone else, and realizing that alone got me pretty upset. it took T.I.M.E. ( and working with someone that was also a rageaholic) to see i was killing me and was gonna lead me back to drinking if i didnt learn what was goin on with me. it involved a lot of writing(4th step) and removing the other person, place, thing entirely.
self will run riot.
i still have problems with anger. it pops up, but not nearly as often and the great thing is i catch it quicker( most of the time) and do what i gotta do to change it, which is look in the mirror.
if you want to stay angry, that is your choice, but i hope you dont want to. i was a rageaholic when i was drining. then, after the fog and misery started to wear off( which took a while), i started getting it back. i didnt want it. i had to stop blaming everyone and everything for the anger and get down to causes and conditions. after all, my problems with anger were my own making, not anyone else, and realizing that alone got me pretty upset. it took T.I.M.E. ( and working with someone that was also a rageaholic) to see i was killing me and was gonna lead me back to drinking if i didnt learn what was goin on with me. it involved a lot of writing(4th step) and removing the other person, place, thing entirely.
self will run riot.
i still have problems with anger. it pops up, but not nearly as often and the great thing is i catch it quicker( most of the time) and do what i gotta do to change it, which is look in the mirror.
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Originally Posted by rojogonzo
I write a post elaborating on how im pissed off all the time, and you show no worry. I write a post explaining my thoughts and you assume somethings wrong. You might want to get your radar fixed.
I guess I don't actually understand... are you angry because you are sober or is it something else?
For myself (and that is all we can really do, share our experience) I was really quick to anger in early recovery, but it passed as I gradually stopped using everyday matters as a way of making me angry so I would have an excuse to drink. And I would make some kind of effort to overcome it daily, ie, googled anger management. If you are okay being pissed off then all is well, if not, there are things you can do to help yourself x
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Originally Posted by TTBABP
Not really sure what counts to me. I have come to the realization though that if I want to figure out what counts I should probably quit drinking and figure it out with a clear head. OK - I answered. Your turn.
What matters to me is getting through the day.
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Originally Posted by rojogonzo
"Sober" and "pissed off" have become synonymous in my book.
I learned in the first months I had to journal my feelings-just kept writing till the feelings passed, learn to channel the anger in other things-like exercise and cleaning house like a mad woman (lol). Probably would have been good to have a punching bag for me for sure.
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Originally Posted by candi7
S.O.B.E.R. Son of a Bitch everything's Real!
I learned in the first months I had to journal my feelings-just kept writing till the feelings passed, learn to channel the anger in other things-like exercise and cleaning house like a mad woman (lol). Probably would have been good to have a punching bag for me for sure.
I learned in the first months I had to journal my feelings-just kept writing till the feelings passed, learn to channel the anger in other things-like exercise and cleaning house like a mad woman (lol). Probably would have been good to have a punching bag for me for sure.
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Originally Posted by Mark75
Yea, I thought everything was boring, plain... vanilla, if you want to say it that way... when I first got sober... Thankfully it doesn't stay that way.
Wait, not vanilla. I meant fruity.
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Originally Posted by rojogonzo
Im learning im just an angry person. Im getting used to it. Sober or drunk i was always pissed. Im in a meeting right now and im pissed off. Ill go home and be pissed off. Ill go to bed and be pissed off. Ill be dreaming pissed off dreams. Ill eat a pissed off breakfast and take a pissed off leak when i finish pouring my coffee into my pissed off gob.
Im a pissed off person. And it some twisted way it makes me happy.
Im a pissed off person. And it some twisted way it makes me happy.
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Man you are p!ssed, that must be pretty hideous to feel that way all the time.
I was pretty angry for about 2, maybe 3 months after getting sober. I was SO p!ssed that I couldn't drink like a normal person.
Gradually, these feelings went away and now I am even-keeled most of the time and feel pretty darn content with my life. I really enjoy sobriety, and I am still shocked that I feel that way. It will be 8 months tomorrow.
I sincerely hope you can find some peace in your sober life. I would suggest therapy but I do not want to get you p!ssed:-).
Take care and best wishes,
Pam
I was pretty angry for about 2, maybe 3 months after getting sober. I was SO p!ssed that I couldn't drink like a normal person.
Gradually, these feelings went away and now I am even-keeled most of the time and feel pretty darn content with my life. I really enjoy sobriety, and I am still shocked that I feel that way. It will be 8 months tomorrow.
I sincerely hope you can find some peace in your sober life. I would suggest therapy but I do not want to get you p!ssed:-).
Take care and best wishes,
Pam
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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki
Man you are p!ssed, that must be pretty hideous to feel that way all the time.
I was pretty angry for about 2, maybe 3 months after getting sober. I was SO p!ssed that I couldn't drink like a normal person.
Gradually, these feelings went away and now I am even-keeled most of the time and feel pretty darn content with my life. I really enjoy sobriety, and I am still shocked that I feel that way. It will be 8 months tomorrow.
I sincerely hope you can find some peace in your sober life. I would suggest therapy but I do not want to get you p!ssed:-).
Take care and best wishes,
Pam
I was pretty angry for about 2, maybe 3 months after getting sober. I was SO p!ssed that I couldn't drink like a normal person.
Gradually, these feelings went away and now I am even-keeled most of the time and feel pretty darn content with my life. I really enjoy sobriety, and I am still shocked that I feel that way. It will be 8 months tomorrow.
I sincerely hope you can find some peace in your sober life. I would suggest therapy but I do not want to get you p!ssed:-).
Take care and best wishes,
Pam
You assume im not in therapy and heavily medicated being the neurotic mutant i am.
I dont buy the magical, everlasting orgasm you people and AA seem to fond of mentioning. Know what else is serene? A castrated dog.
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Hey, don't lump me in with the AAers, please! I "recovered" from my alcoholism using the principles of AVRT.
I think an everlasting orgasm would be delightful, but I'm talking about plain-old white bread being content. Ups and downs most days, some days better than others.
Do you have a good relationship with your therapist?
Pam
I think an everlasting orgasm would be delightful, but I'm talking about plain-old white bread being content. Ups and downs most days, some days better than others.
Do you have a good relationship with your therapist?
Pam
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