walkingwithgod

I am going to the Patriots Pre-Season game tonight, and I am about 36 hours sober. I am going with a non-drinking friend, but I have always over indulged at games. This is going to be tough.

Weasel1966

WWG.... No its not!

You are here telling us what's what. Go and come back here. Tell us the minute you arrive. You and I are accountable to ourselves and those that support us.

Have fun!!!!!

walkingwithgod

I will, I am going with a non drinking friend which is good. But, I also want to smoke a cigar on the way to the game to relax and I know that he does not like smoke. Is it rude if I do it anyway just to feel confortable it is my car? I just feel like I need something to relax. No one really knows at work that I drink a lot or smoke a cigar in the evening. I feel like I sound nuts.

Weasel1966

Nuts? Hmmmm... No... Not to you.

What other ways can you relax other than a cigar?

Also if you were drinking you would do a cigar anyway... That's what you do.

Personally... The cigar would be a trigger for me.

Go with your teeth gritted if needed. Go and think of others... Your friend.

Go an just have fun!

And again I want you to come back and tell us about it.

Crutches are for the infirm.... I dont see you as that.

Notmyrealname

Ew, pre-season football. There should be a support group for people who go to those games.

Just kidding -- have a nice time I guess I have been to one or two myself.

Also probably bad form to force another human to sit through a cigar in a car unless he is smoking one, too. You could offer him one, I suppose.

walkingwithgod

We are going to the game because my buddy just got season tickets this year, and he gets to sit in his seats for the first time today. I feel like I am looking for any other vice other that alcohol to make me relax.

TorontoGuy28

I passed on all such events until 90 days sober...

walkingwithgod

I love football, and it is good to have a non drinking friend to go with.

TorontoGuy28

I get it... I too love football, and actually competed at University level....

I failed waaaaaaaaaaay too many times at such events, and decided that sobriety came first.

Now I can go anywhere, even with my friends drinking - no issues.

gingerhero

Good luck!!! Enjoy the game! :-)

gincognito

I don't know, but I know I'm going to be smoking a cigar tonight myself. 36 hours seems awful soon to me, was probably sitting at home watching netflix and eating pizza or something

Hevyn

Hi WWG. I think all those 'firsts' feel a little odd. Holidays, vacas, special occasions of any kind - we're so used to numbing ourselves to have 'fun'. That's our old way of thinking, though. Now we can experience things with eyes wide open and actually remember everything that happens & what we talked about.

I hope you have a great time.

walkingwithgod

Thanks all for the great responses. It is just so weird to be going to a big event sober. Usually my anxiety takes over and I get out of control wasted. I guess maybe I will enjoy this better. I feel good after about 36 hours, just worried that I have not had any withdrawals yet, and fear they could come at any time.

Dee74

I generally advise people really think about their first social outing....especially where drinking will be involved and especially it's somewhere where they've done a lot of drinking in the past.

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walkingwithgod

I had a great time last night at the Patriots game. I had a Pepsi and an Ice Coffee and no alcohol. This is the first sporting event since before I was 21 that I have not been drunk or at least buzzed. I am proud of myself, and was able to enjoy the game. I even told my friend about my issues and he was shocked about how I drank 8-10 beers a night, and had no clue. I told my wife how proud I was of myself and that I am feeling better, and she does not seem to really care all that much.

Jeni26

So pleased you enjoyed it! You are doing really well x

walkingwithgod

My said that I am over excited about being sober the last 2 days, not sure why she would say that.

OneLessLonely

Great job in the sporting event!! I cant believe football is back. I think your wife is probably worried that it won't last and so doesn't want to get crushed by getting too excited and them it not lasting. She may harbor some negative feelings about your drinking in the past and it will take some more time of you being sober for her to not believe its too good to be true. I don't know your situation but it's just a thought. Just keep up the good work and say close to here.

walkingwithgod

My wife never asked me stop, and yes I have been an a$$ to her more than once. She just wanted me to cut back.

TorontoGuy28

It's because she thinks you are normal drinker, just like her perhaps ?

I would cut back while enjoying a dinner with her, then secretly pretend to take recycling out and chug wine/beer in the garage....