Today I stood up for my sobriety!!
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Join Date: Jul 2012
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good job!,
Great job. I am 5 months sober and discovering who my friends are as well. Some need to change the way they treat me, because they can't walk all over me like they used to when I was drunk. It has forever changed my 20 year best friend relationship.
I can handle small doses of drinking around me. But I need an exit plan, and always have one in place. I have found friends in meetings as well. We don't always talk about drinking either, and its nice to not feel weird being the only one sober. Do you attend meetings?
I can handle small doses of drinking around me. But I need an exit plan, and always have one in place. I have found friends in meetings as well. We don't always talk about drinking either, and its nice to not feel weird being the only one sober. Do you attend meetings?
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Britt, great job resisting. It sounds like you will have to initiate non drinking activities to see these friends for now. Hopefully they will respond and meet you halfway. I think if you're honest and just tell them you're trying really hard to separate from that scene, but miss them they'll make an effort.
That's part of why it's so hard to quit. You're not just quitting booze or drugs. You're often forced to quit places and people at the same time. It's too bad it has to be that way, but I think for a lot of us that's going to be the reality.
That's part of why it's so hard to quit. You're not just quitting booze or drugs. You're often forced to quit places and people at the same time. It's too bad it has to be that way, but I think for a lot of us that's going to be the reality.
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Originally Posted by PaperDolls 
It's not easy to deal with.
Have you invited them to do some things that don't involve drinking?
Have you invited them to do some things that don't involve drinking?
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Originally Posted by Live2Run25
At first I thought I’d go. I’d keep my boyfriend by my side and leave after an hour, but the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. They all know I quit drinking, and while I know it is not their choice, it annoys me that they are only capable of hanging out in a bar. So I emailed the friend today and explained that I am not okay with going to a bar to see everyone, and that there are plenty of other options, and to contact me when they wanted to do those things.
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You will find out that you have friends and you have "drinking buddies". I'm only at day 11, but my friends are showing their true colors as "drinking buddies" I haven't really invited them anywhere, because while I know I can resist the alcohol, I am not sure I can resist the cigarette, just yet!
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Originally Posted by Live2Run25
Yes. They are always "busy" but oddly enough not busy enough to be at the bar 5 times a week.
I am starting to wonder if a few have problems also and we just enabled each others drinking in some way making it seem the normal way to live....
well done to standing up for yourself.
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Originally Posted by Rosieblue
Sounds like a lot of my friends can't say I can remember when or if we done anything together that didn't somehow end up in a pub
I am starting to wonder if a few have problems also and we just enabled each others drinking in some way making it seem the normal way to live....
well done to standing up for yourself.
I am starting to wonder if a few have problems also and we just enabled each others drinking in some way making it seem the normal way to live....
well done to standing up for yourself.
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