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Originally Posted by sugarbear1 
Did you get through the 5th step yet?
Without a discussion with my sponsor, I couldn't see my part in anything, but that is me.
Keep moving forward, Lost!!
Without a discussion with my sponsor, I couldn't see my part in anything, but that is me.
Keep moving forward, Lost!!
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Originally Posted by FlyerFan
Yeah I understand. I used to scream at mine for the stupidest things. dirty dishes, or something else. lol. and now when i see them I just automatically pick them up and wash them myself because i have to remind myself that he's just a typical man and of course hes gonna be a little lazy and messy, what man isnt? lmao
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If you are not part of the problem...then there is not a solution. In this instance, his words, deeds, and lack of attention/communication is causing you to lose control. You have to accept him as he is---as he accepted you during your abuse---and hope he comes around and makes some positive changes. If he doesnt, you either accept it or get out. I am guessing he made the same decision when you were drinking.
Good luck
Good luck
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An example-
Lets say you get robbed at gunpoint outside a mall. For days/months, years you carry this insane amount of anger/fear. Was it your fault---no! Is it your fault to continue holding the grudge and letting this instance influence YOUR life in negative way...Yes.
Worry about what you can control- absolutely NOTHING else.
I will be pulling for you.
Lets say you get robbed at gunpoint outside a mall. For days/months, years you carry this insane amount of anger/fear. Was it your fault---no! Is it your fault to continue holding the grudge and letting this instance influence YOUR life in negative way...Yes.
Worry about what you can control- absolutely NOTHING else.
I will be pulling for you.
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