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Recharger 07-19-2012 02:59 AM


Originally Posted by duane1 (Post 3494445)
Starting to remember small things that I haven't thought about in many years.

Wow, this is something I have noticed, too. Suddenly something will come flooding back to me, a memory I thought was extinct. Congratulations on your 48 days, that's amazing.

flachead 07-19-2012 03:41 AM

Good Morning, I'm finding that I'm not watching the clock at work to get out, get home and have drinks (one track mind) - I'm also stopping places after work to get errands done instead of running home to the drink and cramming everything into Sat. (errands, shopping) then drinking the rest of the weekend away.....

reggiewayne 07-19-2012 04:25 AM

Great post. I love the part about waking up and not feeling guilty. Man, do I relate to that. Keep up the good work!

effortjoy 07-19-2012 04:44 AM

Eating a healthier diet
Feeling hope for the future
Completed a project at work without needing alcohol for 'creative thinking'
Less bloated
Beginning to reconnect spiritually
Tomorrow will be one month and one week sober for me!

stugotz 07-19-2012 04:51 AM

No handcuffs. Just sayin...

FreddyFatal 07-19-2012 05:24 AM


Originally Posted by cmc133 (Post 3494534)
Wow, this is really encouraging. I love hearing about the changes in people's lives.

I'd say another positive change is that I feel less isolated, more open. I've always been introverted, a little shy, and told myself that's just the way I am. It's amazing what a little social interaction can do to lift the mood and distract you from cravings.

For sure.. it's only been a few weeks for me but I feel much more social and confident.. during my binge drinking I really felt I was stuttering a lot.. hopefully noone else really noticed but it prevented me from being very outgoing.

lilyrosemary 07-19-2012 05:35 AM

i am free

cmc133 07-19-2012 06:23 AM


Originally Posted by Inca (Post 3494639)
I pick up the phone at work and call people instead of hiding behind email

I've noticed this change in myself too.

What is it about alcohol that makes us feel so solitary? The more I drank, the more I wanted to be left alone, even when I wasn't drinking.

FreddyFatal 07-19-2012 07:35 AM


Originally Posted by cmc133 (Post 3495531)
I've noticed this change in myself too.

What is it about alcohol that makes us feel so solitary? The more I drank, the more I wanted to be left alone, even when I wasn't drinking.

I might has well have said that sentence because it describes me perfectly. I make more calls which means I'm being more productive at work rather than being passive hiding behind emails. Good observation.

raindancer11 07-19-2012 08:06 AM

being a better listener and feeling comfortable around people are probably the best changes I experienced in the first few months

and feeling alive. That was good too.

cmc133 07-19-2012 10:21 AM

Just stopped to get some sushi takeout for lunch. The restaurant is in the same area as the store where I used to purchase wine. I had a sudden feeling that buying a bottle of wine was inevitable, I was going to do it. I was going to get drunk this afternoon.

I felt a little sad and a little excited at the same time. Then I started thinking through this thread, all the positives people are seeing, all the positive changes I've seen in the last ten days, and the urge slowly went away.

Thanks for this site, thanks for everything.

mecanix 07-19-2012 11:52 AM

I don't have night sweats,
I'm not worried about DUI's the morning after,
My knowledge and experience in quitting might prove useful to someone with the same problem .
I'm far more relaxed and calm than i used to be,
Spontaneous happiness is now more likely than a low mood,
My finances are under control,
My decision making is far better,
I understand and feel more in control of my responces to external influence and the internal parts of my life .
I'm a nicer and better Son, friend and colleauge .

imaquitter 07-19-2012 12:55 PM

I'm a few weeks in after 20ish years of constant drinking.

Relaxed 24/7
Wake up early feeling great and can do whatever I feel like at any time
The waking up with a pounding 120-130 heartrate is gone, now I have to feel for it
No more counting beers at 1AM before a late night beer run, drunk driving.
Lower back pain is completely gone
Dreams came back and sleep problems are history (no caffeine too)
I've noticed younger women actually looking at me or smiling at me again
(Not to be crude but) not having to wonder if it's really a fart :D
No more planning to get everything done on the same day so I can drink every other day
Actually cooking food and want to eat all the time instead of buying it and watching it all go bad while living off chips and fast food.
Don't have to crush dozens of cans to hide how much I drink when taking out the trash
No more pile of 12 pack boxes sitting all over the house, no more can pyramids to fall over stinking up the place either.
I no longer rotate which store I go to so that the cashiers don't notice that I'm buying so much beer.
Also, I don't buy all the other random crap at the store to hide the fact that I'm just there for the alcohol. This really saves a lot of cash lol.
I can actually talk to people during the day now and not just the Hi-Bye deal.
I've been doing the repairs on my car, RV, and motorcycle, and washing them, instead of just watching them fall apart.
I don't argue on the internet anymore HAHA.

sarahbartok 07-31-2012 05:11 AM

*I am spending more time making proactive plans for the future
*I am doing things I have been putting off for ages
*I don't have the feelings of shame I had when I was using
*I can see more up ahead
*I don't have nearly as many suicidal thoughts as I used to

Jeni26 07-31-2012 05:43 AM

Day 67

I am feeling love in my heart for those who have loved me for a long time and I couldn't see past my own pain long enough to see it before x

LoftyIdeals 07-31-2012 05:52 AM


Originally Posted by cmc133 (Post 3495878)
Just stopped to get some sushi takeout for lunch. The restaurant is in the same area as the store where I used to purchase wine. I had a sudden feeling that buying a bottle of wine was inevitable, I was going to do it. I was going to get drunk this afternoon.

I felt a little sad and a little excited at the same time. Then I started thinking through this thread, all the positives people are seeing, all the positive changes I've seen in the last ten days, and the urge slowly went away.

Thanks for this site, thanks for everything.

This, my friend, is the power of SR. 24/7 support, reference, accountability, and virtual partners in the dance. And that has been more powerful than any other recovery source for me. Keep at it, cmc. And thanks for a great post!

Itsmytime 07-31-2012 05:58 AM

Day 16, and starting to really be present. Too many years spent ruminating in shame, anxiety and guilt.

Freedom from anxiety!!

flutter 07-31-2012 06:10 AM

After 3 and a half years sober;

I have a beautiful baby boy, and I'm a wonderful mommy (ok he's 2, not a baby lol)
I live in my little dream house
My marriage is solid
My work performance skyrocketed
My health/bloodwork is perfectly normal
My fitness and weight have improved drastically
My sleep is deep and refreshing
I love myself, and I'm content in my life
I have learned how to live life, using tools I have learned in recovery to get through celebrations, sadness, boredom, and anger.
The inner peace that I feel most of the time is priceless

vegan 07-31-2012 06:15 AM

Being able to do things at night...I can get in the car and go get my kids a ice cream or make a afternoon appointment..whatever:) now that I am not revolving my days activities around drinking I am free to do anything anytime:) Day 18 for me....thanks for all the thinking that is shared here on SR!

Notmyrealname 07-31-2012 06:50 AM

I'm not nearly as much of a dick anymore, mostly from having less anger and frustration with myself (so I'm not redirecting it towards other people).

I have more spending money and a correspondingly lower amount of anxiety about cashflow come bill-pay time.

I lost 20-30 lbs, maybe? A friend at work commented the other day that I look much skinnier. I can run 4-5 miles at a stretch. Aiming for 12% bodyfat and a decent 10K time for my age by end of next summer. Long term goals, people :) That's what gets ya out of bed in the morning..

Not stupid or half-brain-dead anymore. I have short term memory again.

I am proud of me! I do good things for myself and others. Sure, I'm no saint, but positive change is positive. Baby steps; a man can't fix the world in a day.


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