Day four-I don't think I can do this
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Day four-I don't think I can do this
Feel like I will never feel normal again. It seems like I felt much better before I stopped. Thinking of switching to wine instead of vodka....
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It does get better. You've gotten past the first 3 days. You have to give it time to get better, time to heal physically and emotionally. You are on this board for a reason. Stick with itl. We are here to support you and cheer you on!!
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It's difficult to stop effortjoy. Not drinking feels so uncomfortable.
It's not easy - but there is support here and elsewhere.
I found when I stayed the distance I found normal again - and to my surprise it was a normal I'd forgotten about....a normal that somewhere I'd replaced with a a 'drinking normal'
I got my life and the old me back. Don't give up on that.
I dunno about you but I drank for years - give sobriety more than a couple of days chance
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It's not easy - but there is support here and elsewhere.
I found when I stayed the distance I found normal again - and to my surprise it was a normal I'd forgotten about....a normal that somewhere I'd replaced with a a 'drinking normal'
I got my life and the old me back. Don't give up on that.
I dunno about you but I drank for years - give sobriety more than a couple of days chance
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Congratulations on day 4! Getting through the first week was a bit rough for me too. Hang in there , it really does get better. That AV is messing with your head right now. I can tell you from experience, switching from vodka to wine results in the same outcome. MISERY!
It made no difference in the long run...I still couldn't control myself. I had plenty of blackouts with wine. I had to face the fact I couldn't drink. Didn't matter what it was.
Please keep coming here for support. You can do this!
Best Wishes To You!
It made no difference in the long run...I still couldn't control myself. I had plenty of blackouts with wine. I had to face the fact I couldn't drink. Didn't matter what it was.
Please keep coming here for support. You can do this!
Best Wishes To You!
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Why give in after only 3 days? We've taken years and years to trash the crap out of our bodies to get to the hell that we're in now. Logic tells me it must take more than 3 days to undo the damage. You can do it!
To add, I've tried the "only wine now" or "just beer" or "switching to ____, no more vodka" but it always ended the same way.
To add, I've tried the "only wine now" or "just beer" or "switching to ____, no more vodka" but it always ended the same way.
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I was thinking the same thing! You've made it through 3 days, why not keep moving forward??? You are on your way to sobriety and there is nothing I can't do today. When I drank, I ended up sitting alone watching tv and just drinking. That's no life. Today, I get out and about, I talk to all kinds of people where ever I go, life is truly worth living today!!
What goes up, must come down, then you'll even out!!!! You can keep moving forward and soon, you'll look back and know you did right to yourself!! It's a process....
I know you can do this!! We are here for you, we've been where you are now. You aren't alone anymore.
With love,
What goes up, must come down, then you'll even out!!!! You can keep moving forward and soon, you'll look back and know you did right to yourself!! It's a process....
I know you can do this!! We are here for you, we've been where you are now. You aren't alone anymore.
With love,
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You said before that you started drinking at age 13. You drank wine for a long time. In fact it sounds like you became an alcoholic drinking wine, long before you switched to vodka.
I know it's hard—it may get even harder before it gets easier. But it will get easier. How much time are you willing to invest now to be the kind of person you truly want to be, to live the rest of your life as you truly should?
More than four days, I reckon. You can do this. You did good, coming here to post about it, effortjoy.
Effort and joy. That sounds about right to me. This is just the effort part. The joy will come, I promise.
One day I looked in the mirror and couldn't recognize myself. Though I always ran and maintained my weight even during the worst of my drinking binges- I looked bloated, dark circles under the eyes, bloodshot eyes and my once sharp thinking abilities were definitely dulling into "brain fog." I didn't want to be this kind of mother. I didn't want to be this kind of person.
More than four days, I reckon. You can do this. You did good, coming here to post about it, effortjoy.
Effort and joy. That sounds about right to me. This is just the effort part. The joy will come, I promise.
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Originally Posted by mwstylee 
Why give in after only 3 days? We've taken years and years to trash the crap out of our bodies to get to the hell that we're in now. Logic tells me it must take more than 3 days to undo the damage. You can do it!
To add, I've tried the "only wine now" or "just beer" or "switching to ____, no more vodka" but it always ended the same way.
To add, I've tried the "only wine now" or "just beer" or "switching to ____, no more vodka" but it always ended the same way.
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Im on day four too! Stay determined! Ive had little improvements each day that make it worth suffering through the first few days. Day 3 was my worst. But i powered through it and here i am, almost done with day 4. Please stay strong!
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Day 4 is good. I know I didn't get that far on the first two attempts. It gets better. Believe me, it does get better. I think that, this time, for me, day 4 was the low point. Tired, groggy, irritable.
So don't give in. It's not worth it. But you are, ok?
So don't give in. It's not worth it. But you are, ok?
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None of us would ever quit if we thought Day 3 was as good as we'd ever feel. I remember having the same feelings, effortjoy - but I knew there was going to be an improvement if I just held on for dear life. No, it isn't easy - it's unpleasant and uncomfortable. We feel like lost souls in the beginning.
As the others have said, we can promise you it will get easier, you will feel better, and you won't regret reclaiming your life.
As the others have said, we can promise you it will get easier, you will feel better, and you won't regret reclaiming your life.
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Thank you
I made it through day four! All of your support made it possible. I had a really, really hard day. At one point during the afternoon, I was positive everyone around me would be better off if I had a few drinks, but I fought that thought all day....and I am hoping day 5 will be easier
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Yes it really DOES get better. I just posted that I'm 2 weeks sober today and yesterday my smile finally came back. I really wanted to kill my husband for 2 weeks. What would have sent me over the edge last week got a "eh whatever" from me today. Just stick with it and it was wine that got me in this situation. Best of luck!!
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Great job on getting through today...Every day will get better you don't drink..My first couple weeks my emotions were all over the map...I'd go from happy to sad to wanting to rip someones head off for nothing..It's normal...We have a lot of undoing to do....Give time some time....You have two ways you can go right now...Back to misery or forward to what I can promise you will be better every day you get through...Just don't pick up the first drink. What are you doing for recovery besides this site?...Any other support or anything else you are reading?
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