positivelady67

Hello all

I am 72 days sober and am finding things hard as I am discovering who the hell I am after 20 years of drinking. I feel that I don't quite belong. I have friends that I feel I don't belong in their group now and am still new in the rooms and don't feel I belong there either so as my counseller said today I am in no mans land for now. Just wanted to get that off my chest and also to indroduce myself, hi I am Ally xx

Casmasta

Hi, positivelady!
I'm in your boat.. Trying to figure out who I am after 20 years.
I just have a pep talk with myself about staying focused every time I think I don't belong..
I think in the future, at some point, you'll look around and you'll belong there.
I hope that's the case, anyway.

positivelady67

Hi Casmasta

Thanks for your reply, I am trying to be positive and am hoping that it will all come together. I think for me is I want it all now and don't want to wait to feel better. How long have you been sober?

sugarbear1

Welcome to SR!

Time to find a sponsor and work those steps!! The new solution is in the step work.

Glad you are here!

hypochondriac

Hey Ally, I'm Lucy, and I'm in exactly the same boat as you. Give it time. For myself, I think I'm impatient for things to be sorted and okay right away but I'm trying to learn to be patient. In the meantime SR is a great place for support x

Casmasta

I've been sober since April 23rd.. So 51 days? (i just figured it out.. never been good with dates.. but i guess now, with sobriety, people like you to remember that stuff? hahaha)

I think that's the issue I'm having too.. I call it my Veruca Salts. I WANT IT NOW.
I thought when I first quit that it would be easier than it is. I didn't realize all of the things I'd actually have to work on. Hubris.
I guess anything worth doing isn't easy, or something. At least that's what I've heard?

I'm having one of those days where every fifteen minutes I have to tell myself to take a deep breath. I can't tell if it's because of all the coffee, or..?

Anyway, yeah.. The in-betweens. It's a tough place.

Anna

Hi Ally, and Welcome!

I sure do remember feeling like you do, but know for sure that it will get better.

I didn`t use AA, but I found that volunteer work really helped me a lot to make new, sober friends and to find a sense of purpose in my life.

I`m glad you found us.

hypochondriac

Love it

Live2Run25

Helly Ally! Welcome! I find myself in the same position. Wondering where to go from here. Just taking it one day at a time!

positivelady67

Thank you everyone I feel soooo much better already after reading your replies. I am so glad I found this site. On Friday I am off to my local AA meeting and am going to approach a lady to be my sponsor. I know I have to work this program to make me change and feel good about me.

As we said in the treatment centre I was in "keep coming back it works if you work it so work it your worth it"

Ally
x

Casmasta

You just helped me find my avatar.


I'm so glad I found this site, too, PostiveL.
It's really given me so much in the past couple of days that I wasn't getting just stuck in my own head.