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Old 06-28-2012, 12:52 AM
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I bought a games consul so i could get absorbed in something when my head was going negative places .
I also stocked up the cupboards and freezer so i did'nt have to go to the supermarket and go past the drinks section if i was'nt feeling confident .
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Old 06-28-2012, 08:29 PM
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Removing alcohol from your life, is like removing a film from the windows of your home. At first you find the reality of life a bit bright and overwhelming, so you stay inside for awhile till you adjust.

Then One day you work your way to looking out some windows. Then opening some doors. You allow fresh air in so you are not just soley exposed to your old stale ways of being and doing.

Eventually you realize that not only can you see out, but that if you let people closer, they can see you too. So you start setting boundaries with who can come close and who can't.

One day, someone says to you that they will put the film back on the windows for you so you can go back to how it was. Even though you're scared of being seen and connecting with the world outside the windows. You say, no. Don't put it back.

You can't put the Genie back in the bottle. Now you know what you've been missing. With the film back on, you would always know that you deliberately shut out the wonders of the world. And with that knowledge, you couldn't be happy.
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Old 06-30-2012, 04:01 AM
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Recognise the triggers and times when you most want to drink and be prepared. Breathe consciously and deeply when cravings start. Don't let yourself get too hungry.
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Old 07-05-2012, 07:57 PM
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Help other people who are quitting. It reinforces your sobriety skills and your commitment and also gets your mind off yourself for a few minutes.
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Old 07-07-2012, 08:57 PM
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Post something somewhere on SR everyday..For reinforcement. And,.never forget where you came from. It helps avoid complacency. .And it reminds you which direction you are going.
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Old 07-09-2012, 12:24 AM
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Believe you CAN do it. BELIEVE it is POSSIBLE. AND join a monthly SR class.

I did not believe I could quit, so I never even tried to, until I accidently found SR.
I joined the Feb 2012 class, and Dee kept writing: "EQ, you can do this."
And it was him saying that which got me through another day, until I could say it to myself and believe it.
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Old 07-14-2012, 12:12 AM
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Just do whatever you can in the beginning to NOT DRINK. Put NOT DRINKING up there in your mind with the priority of KEEP BREATHING. First, stay alive. Second, don't drink.

Remember when you fly in a plane, and the airline attendant tells you to afix your oxygen mask on yourself first before you help your loved ones with theirs? Why do they say to do that? Thats right, because if you pass out you will be no help to yourself or anyone else.

In the same way you must make "sobriety first" your mantra. Tell yourself: "No matter what, this is non negotiable."

Tell yourself there will never again be a good enough reason to drink or a bad enougb reason to drink. Because drinking steals all reason.
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Old 07-14-2012, 12:47 AM
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The things that have helped me out the most are having several bottles of cold Gatorade or Water, or Tea, or whatever in the fridge and drink drink drink all day while eating well and taking real vitamins and amino acids tablets. I actually have all 3 of those drinks in large quantities in the fridge and rotate but I really haven't seriously thought about alcohol since the 2-4 days after stopping for good.

I usually get really depressed, feel like doing nothing but vegging, but not this time.

By my 4th day after quitting I felt great and it just gets better and better everyday now.

I've felt so good that in the past 2 weeks I've put over 1000 miles on my motorcycle, just cruising around everywhere. It gets almost 100mpg so costs almost nothing lol. If I'm bored and think I might start pondering alcohol I'll go for a ride, even at Midnight lol. :rotfxko
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Old 07-21-2012, 09:19 PM
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Don't become complacent.
On days that sobriety seems easier, make a point of helping others on SR that day.
When it's tougher, ask for help on SR right away!

Stand guard for your sobriety.
And your sobriety will pay you back 100 fold.
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Old 07-21-2012, 09:41 PM
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get used to being uncomfortable. when we we were drinking, we were comfortable. not drinking means we have to deal with emotions that we've been suppressing for years and are foreign to us. when they made us uncomfortable in the past, we drank them into oblivion. when they came to the surface again, we drank them back down. now, they are going to surface and we are not going to drink them away. acknowledge them. feel them. deal with them as they are or just feel them, knowing that they too shall pass with time. it may be uncomfortable, even painful but that is part of sobriety. it's part of being human. it's ok.

learn to ask for help. if those emotions are too much to bear alone, seek help! see a therapist, a counselor, a doctor. you don't have to deal with something that is too much for you to handle alone. we are social creatures and sometimes we forget that. look into all the options available to you and get help if you need it. do what you can so that you don't feel your only recourse is to drink the bad feelings away because they won't go away like that.
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Old 07-22-2012, 01:28 AM
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Even though you may not have experienced it freedom does await you if you can remain sober. Consider the example of many long timers on SR.

I know how much can change in 14 months. I wouldn't have believed it possible, but it is.
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Old 07-22-2012, 02:26 AM
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Think of the money your not peeing way.
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Old 07-22-2012, 05:59 AM
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Yes, like DisplacedGrits said. Get used to being uncomfortable.

But: (1) remember that being uncomfortable is okay, and normal, given that you have just quit an addiction; there is nothing "wrong" with you if you are uncomfortable; and (2) know that the discomfort is not forever. Eventually, you will simply be left with the discomfort of life. The pain of your addiction will leave.
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Old 07-22-2012, 08:00 AM
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I remind myself that the discomfort of wanting a drink that I can't have is sooooo much better than the discomfort of a severe hangover or that horrible dread feeling that comes from not remembering hours of the previous evening.
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Old 07-22-2012, 11:38 AM
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Don't be afraid to ask for help.........
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I just wanted to say a big thank you EternalQ for this thread, and for this thread that you started http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...you-today.html

They really help when I am struggling. So I'm going to cheat and say that my sobriety tip is to bookmark both these threads and read when I'm having a bad day (or any day).

thanks again.
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Thinking of it as a DRUNK rather than a DRINK

Accepting that there is never "just 1"

Being reminded that Real rock bottom is 6ft under and that would be too little too late!
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Old 07-26-2012, 12:59 PM
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I remind myself that all the good feelings of self esteem and self respect I recieve from sobriety will turn back into self loathing and shame if I drink..only worse then before because I will isolate to avoid the disappointment in others eyes too.

I literally tell myself: Failure is not an option. Then I reassure myself because if I am having urges to drink that is probably because I am afraid to face something without it. In which.case, I give myself permission to slow things down a bit till I am less afraid. I tell myself, drinking is not an option, so lets look at some other options you have to help you with this...
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Old 07-28-2012, 12:15 PM
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Your recovery is not dependent upon anyone else. Focus on your recovery and good things will follow. I am a testament to this after only 2 weeks sober
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Do not relent! Staying sober is like walking up a mountain path. just climb what is right in front of you for that day. Do NOT think about what lies ahead, as you are not the person you are going to be when you encounter tomorrow. Each day builds on the last. And each day the view is wider, and the possibilities you see for your life expand. And your emotional muscle strengthens.

You will not want to slide back down that mountain.

Trust the climbers ahead of you. They will tell you how much stronger they feel and how much a sober life continues to surpass their hopes and expectations.

And don't forget to look around wherever you are, be grateful for it, and enjoy the view!
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