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Old 03-08-2013, 08:17 PM
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I'm still new at this journey 53 days!

But what I find myself saying all the time is
My Priority is my Sobriety

Anything I put in front of that I may as well kiss good bye!

Try to keep it simple right now.
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Old 03-08-2013, 09:27 PM
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visit SR, be somebody's friend and eat properly
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Old 03-09-2013, 03:31 PM
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Meeting makers make it......
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Old 03-09-2013, 03:40 PM
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People who do not go to meetings ALSO make it.
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Old 04-02-2013, 08:09 PM
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Be scrupulously honest with yourself. Dont lie to yourself.
Dont be two separate people.
Go to the mirror when you feel tempted, and ask your reflection:
"Who do you want reflected back? Will you be able to look yourself in the mirror tomorrow?"
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Old 04-19-2013, 05:45 PM
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Stay where you are: in the present.
Focusing on past regrets and loss,
or future fears and unknowns,
are surefire ways to relapse.
Continually bring your thoughts back to the present moment.
In this exact present moment as you read this, you can and are sober.
In this next moment, you can and are sober
and so on.
That is how it is done.
That is how all of us did it, and that is how you are doing it too.
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Old 06-02-2013, 01:15 AM
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Every consecutive day you do not drink, you build stronger emotional muscle.
Stronger emotional muscle is needed to feel better about yourself, get balanced, and feel your inner power, become more serene, and release endorphins.
It all builds on yourself.
Go to the sobriety gym everyday. No excuses. And like with getting in shape, soon the changes you see in yourself and your life are enough motivation to keep it going.
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Old 06-02-2013, 01:40 AM
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If y'recognise y'starting to bs y'self - post it! 'Lot harder to lie when everyone knows the truth. Been invaluable to me.

And...asking for help ain't admitting weakness; it takes guts.
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Old 06-02-2013, 03:44 AM
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In the beginning I needed to think about NOT DRINKING as opposed to thinking about drinking. The need to substitute during my drinking hours water and candy or sweet items helped cushion the lack of alcohol. Getting INTO instead of being around AA was a big survival method for me also. Probably most needed to do was KEEP COMING even when I didn't want to.Meetings, meetings, meetings because my super intellect wasn't working with my drinking problem for years. BE WELL
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Old 06-02-2013, 03:59 AM
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Find something that works for you that can stop your mind from spinning so you can refocus or get out of your head

read a book
take a walk
cook something
clean something
build something
run in place
build a puzzle
take deep breathes
turn in circles until you are dizzy
force yourself to laugh
run up and down stairs
count to 1 hundred, do it again using even numbers, then do it again using odd numbers
if you have a change jar, count that money
learn origami
learn a magic trick
get those pictures out of the shoe box and make a collage
organize closets, drawers or cabinets


Find something that takes away the mind spin.
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Old 06-02-2013, 04:10 AM
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do not entertain those thoughts


if I entertain the thought
of drinking and using for long
I will probably end up doing it

today I do not entertain those thoughts in my mind
when they do come (which is normal especially in early sobriety)
I change the direction of my thinking
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Old 06-02-2013, 04:39 AM
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This is just my way but.... When I'm struggling I don't distract. I stop and let myself feel angry sad confused pissed scared whater it may be. I really feel it and don't squash it or distract from it. Often I will put it on paper. Allowing myself to acknowledge my particular emotion and not justify it just feel it makes it pass. And then I can move on!

For me learning to feel process and access my emotional states has made me journey in sobriety quite rewarding.
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Old 07-03-2013, 04:59 PM
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Tell yourself the truth. Dont lie to yourself.
If you're tempted, then go look in a mirror, and say all the bs reasons you've been saying to yourself in your head.
Except this time say them out loud, to your face.
Then ask yourself: Do I believe this?
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Old 07-03-2013, 05:18 PM
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Use a bridge to cross the river then look back and forgive yourself
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Old 07-03-2013, 05:21 PM
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Originally Posted by EternalQ View Post
Tell yourself the truth. Dont lie to yourself.
If you're tempted, then go look in a mirror, and say all the bs reasons you've been saying to yourself in your head.
Except this time say them out loud, to your face.
Then ask yourself: Do I believe this?
Along similar lines, I would say: Write down what you are thinking. Then read over it and see if you really agree with it.

Writing about stuff helps me a lot.
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Old 07-30-2013, 04:36 AM
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Be vigilant with your mind. This is very important in early recovery and pretty important in general. Do not let it wander to the future. When it does bring it back to this moment. The same with thoughts of the past. Always return to the now.
Keep in the now in early recovery. Some of that past and future stuff will sort out itself if you leave it alone and DONT drink.
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Old 07-30-2013, 04:38 AM
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Old 07-30-2013, 05:02 AM
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When you get a craving keep in mind that it won't last forever, it will go away.
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Old 07-30-2013, 05:59 AM
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Sobriety can be hard in the beginning, but in time it becomes comfortable and eventually you can see your life, freedom and happiness return. It promises change.

Drinking/using will never change. If it's harming your life and your body, it'll continue to do so, repeatedly, with all the sickness, losses and emotional chaos.

A hard struggle with sobriety in the beginning is worth going through for what you gain on the other side. Stick to it and the grass does get greener.
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Old 07-30-2013, 07:20 AM
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Make a list of the positive things about sobriety. Make a list of the positive things about your life. Make a list about the positive things about where you live. Make a list of positive things about yourself. Practice thinking positive... it may take some work, but it's worth it. And it's really hard to think about negative stuff at the same time, so it will naturally give the negative thoughts less power.
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