had enough
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had enough
Hi guys,
I'm new here, i have been drinking tonight, not loads but i'm a solitary drinker, more or less. I've read a lot of posts on this and other sites and i need help. My life is in tatters and hope is now a rare visitor to my psyche. The addictive part of my brain (which appears to be running the show) has all but convinced me that my 'answers' to life and my emotional pain lies in a bottle of wine or two. Don't know who i am anymore, read loads about addiction, bit scared of AA, what if it doesn't help? Or if someone tries to drain me emotionally? I've been a listener all of my life, can't do it anymore. Any advice would be welcome...
Plus, neighbours making a racket with party and rap music tonight, jubilee weekend here in London! Arrrghhh!
Thanks..
I'm new here, i have been drinking tonight, not loads but i'm a solitary drinker, more or less. I've read a lot of posts on this and other sites and i need help. My life is in tatters and hope is now a rare visitor to my psyche. The addictive part of my brain (which appears to be running the show) has all but convinced me that my 'answers' to life and my emotional pain lies in a bottle of wine or two. Don't know who i am anymore, read loads about addiction, bit scared of AA, what if it doesn't help? Or if someone tries to drain me emotionally? I've been a listener all of my life, can't do it anymore. Any advice would be welcome...
Plus, neighbours making a racket with party and rap music tonight, jubilee weekend here in London! Arrrghhh!
Thanks..
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Hi and Welcome,
I completely lost myself in alcohol too and I thought I could never find my way out. But, I did and you can too. There is lots of support here and information too. I am not an AA person, but I was already drained emotionally when I stopped drinking. I was empty. So, I had to start putting myself together again and it's been an amazing journey.
I completely lost myself in alcohol too and I thought I could never find my way out. But, I did and you can too. There is lots of support here and information too. I am not an AA person, but I was already drained emotionally when I stopped drinking. I was empty. So, I had to start putting myself together again and it's been an amazing journey.
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Originally Posted by catlover17 
bit scared of AA, what if it doesn't help?
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Hi catlover, welcome! We are all here because we are sick of being controlled by alcohol. AA offers a way to stay sober, its not the only way but I like what they had to offer. How would I have discovered that unless I first darkened the door? I would suggest you go and find out what their solution is, and stay if you like what they have to offer. (hugs) Glad youre here!
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hope is now a rare visitor to my psyche. The addictive part of my brain (which appears to be running the show) has all but convinced me that my 'answers' to life and my emotional pain lies in a bottle of wine or two.
Glad you found us, catlover. Stick around—this place was a godsend for me.
PS: Rap music for the diamond jubilee? I don't think Her Majesty would approve of that...
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GOOD NEWS!!!! AA isnt just about listening. its a program of action!!! its worked for millions of alcoholics worldwide.
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guys...thanks..
such lovely posts.. this is the start, will check out AA meetings, have had so little support in my life, nice to know people care.. i love caring so hope to be of value and support when i'm a bit better..
Rap music has stopped now
It's just a bit party mode in UK as we have four days off for Jubilee
Completely understand the concept of the illusion that alcohol creates, just need that lightbulb moment... won't wait for it to stop drinking, addictive voice creeping in,
peace and love to everyone,
xxxx
Rap music has stopped now
It's just a bit party mode in UK as we have four days off for Jubilee Completely understand the concept of the illusion that alcohol creates, just need that lightbulb moment... won't wait for it to stop drinking, addictive voice creeping in,
peace and love to everyone,
xxxx
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guys...thanks..
such lovely posts.. this is the start, will check out AA meetings, have had so little support in my life, nice to know people care.. i love caring so hope to be of value and support when i'm a bit better..
Rap music has stopped now It's just a bit party mode in UK as we have four days off for Jubilee
Completely understand the concept of the illusion that alcohol creates, just need that lightbulb moment... won't wait for it to stop drinking, addictive voice creeping in,
peace and love to everyone,
xxxx
Rap music has stopped now
It's just a bit party mode in UK as we have four days off for Jubilee Completely understand the concept of the illusion that alcohol creates, just need that lightbulb moment... won't wait for it to stop drinking, addictive voice creeping in,
peace and love to everyone,
xxxx
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Welcome to the family catlover - it's wonderful you found us. I was lost and alone until I came here. I felt so much calmer and more hopeful when I began reading and seeing myself in so many of the posts. You can have a new life, catlover - we're here to help.
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I would imagine an influx of Brits is on the way to this site after the Queen's jubilee weekend haha. Welcome catlover17, this site has been great help to me as I had become a solitary drinker too and this place reminds me that I don't always have to be 'alone'.
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Originally Posted by Anna
Hi and Welcome,
I completely lost myself in alcohol too and I thought I could never find my way out. But, I did and you can too. There is lots of support here and information too. I am not an AA person, but I was already drained emotionally when I stopped drinking. I was empty. So, I had to start putting myself together again and it's been an amazing journey.
I completely lost myself in alcohol too and I thought I could never find my way out. But, I did and you can too. There is lots of support here and information too. I am not an AA person, but I was already drained emotionally when I stopped drinking. I was empty. So, I had to start putting myself together again and it's been an amazing journey.
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catlover -
"i love caring so hope to be of value and support when i'm a bit better.. "
I understand that statement so WELL!!!
I just wanted to offer my own experience in regards to AA and the "I can't wait to help someone else" attitude...
When I first entered AA I couldn't WAIT to help someone else! It was pretty much my sole purpose for being there
Needless to say - I relapsed quite a few times on my way to "helping someone else."
This time around (8 days sober) I go to meetings - and I know my place - it's to shut up and listen to what others have to say - and to be where I AM - I can't help anyone else until I've helped myself... so I'm just concentrating on being a sponge and mopping up others experiences so I can stay sober - so go to AA, try it out, but try not to get into the trap of "when I'm better" - live where you are now, don't pick up, and you'll grow.
Sending good vibes
Lydie
"i love caring so hope to be of value and support when i'm a bit better.. "
I understand that statement so WELL!!!
I just wanted to offer my own experience in regards to AA and the "I can't wait to help someone else" attitude...
When I first entered AA I couldn't WAIT to help someone else! It was pretty much my sole purpose for being there
Needless to say - I relapsed quite a few times on my way to "helping someone else."
This time around (8 days sober) I go to meetings - and I know my place - it's to shut up and listen to what others have to say - and to be where I AM - I can't help anyone else until I've helped myself... so I'm just concentrating on being a sponge and mopping up others experiences so I can stay sober - so go to AA, try it out, but try not to get into the trap of "when I'm better" - live where you are now, don't pick up, and you'll grow.
Sending good vibes
Lydie
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Welcome to SR catlover
You'll find a lot of methods at play here - AA, SMART, Rational Recovery...there's also things like SOS, Women for Sobriety and Celebrate Recovery (Christian)
here's some links to some of the main players:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
I just used SR - I was ready to quit, I was prepared to back that up, and it worked for me
Good to have you with us
D
You'll find a lot of methods at play here - AA, SMART, Rational Recovery...there's also things like SOS, Women for Sobriety and Celebrate Recovery (Christian)
here's some links to some of the main players:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
I just used SR - I was ready to quit, I was prepared to back that up, and it worked for me
Good to have you with us
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Hi catlover.
Im not AA myself but since I have been on SR since march, I've started thinking of going. If only to meet sober people!
I hear you regarding the blimmin' Jubilee! Its non-stop party party party! Oh, then there is the Olympics to sweat through as well. Good grief! Must be tough in Smoke! Hope to see you around here on SR... brilliant support site!
Im not AA myself but since I have been on SR since march, I've started thinking of going. If only to meet sober people!
I hear you regarding the blimmin' Jubilee! Its non-stop party party party! Oh, then there is the Olympics to sweat through as well. Good grief! Must be tough in Smoke! Hope to see you around here on SR... brilliant support site!
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thank you
Hiya..
it's been lovely receiving so many replies! Hope to get to know you all without alcohol. Have been quite tame the last couple of days considering all that has been going on in london, jubilee etc, have trouble perceiving how to be alcohol free and have fun, be involved etc, think i must try AA lydiebreeze and Zee... just can't shut myself away, causes depression and isolation. Do you think it's ok to go to AA just to meet sober people? I'm wary of the ethos...
Thanks to everyone, i will come here as much as i can...
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it's been lovely receiving so many replies! Hope to get to know you all without alcohol. Have been quite tame the last couple of days considering all that has been going on in london, jubilee etc, have trouble perceiving how to be alcohol free and have fun, be involved etc, think i must try AA lydiebreeze and Zee... just can't shut myself away, causes depression and isolation. Do you think it's ok to go to AA just to meet sober people? I'm wary of the ethos...
Thanks to everyone, i will come here as much as i can...
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