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Day 1
Today is day one for me again. I have been drinking for 28 years and have had probably 30 or 40 day 1's.my husband is fed up with my drinking habits but this is how I deal with everything. I went a year without drinking but I went back. I have a difficult time dealing with things in my life. Alcohol has always allowed me to just forget the problem and move on.but I am getting to old for this.my husband is so reserved and angry a lot.the fact that I am sharing on this online forum would really bother him.so when I am attempting to recover and make a new life for myself I think it is expected that I do it quietly and secretly. All I know is I want it to work this time
Reaching out for help is a great start on the path to recovery. And, ive found that problems in life are much easier to deal with while sober rather than drinking them away Canine Welfare Advocate
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Welcome.
If your husband is tired of your drinking, why would he not support whatever it took for you to recovery. What if you need face-to-face support, like AA? Is he going to be against that? Or are you making an assumption?
Perhaps you can talk with him and sound him out. Tell him how important his support of your recovery (and how you choose to do that) is.
Sober Recovery is a great support tool...and anonymous. Nothing for him to be concerned about.
Originally Posted by Robinz 
...the fact that I am sharing on this online forum would really bother him.so when I am attempting to recover and make a new life for myself I think it is expected that I do it quietly and secretly. All I know is I want it to work this time
Perhaps you can talk with him and sound him out. Tell him how important his support of your recovery (and how you choose to do that) is.
Sober Recovery is a great support tool...and anonymous. Nothing for him to be concerned about.
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Originally Posted by Robinz
When I was pregnant I did not drink so that was 2 9 month periods and when I stopped drinking for a year I read alot but was always so frustrated with my weekly issues.
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I would like to continue using this site. I did try when I was not drinking for that year but I guess I have.a hard time figuring out how it is going to work for me.
I will talk to my husband. Thanks
I will talk to my husband. Thanks
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Originally Posted by Robinz
I have.a hard time figuring out how it is going to work for me.
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Welcome Robinz. You sound a lot like me at the end of my drinking days. I could no longer handle it the way I once did. I was out of control, and no amount I drank was enough. The days of it being fun or relaxing were long gone. It brought me nothing but danger and misery.
I hope you'll stay and keep reading & posting. I was a long term drinker, too - but I have over 4 yrs. sober. You can do it.
I hope you'll stay and keep reading & posting. I was a long term drinker, too - but I have over 4 yrs. sober. You can do it.
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Yes it never winds up good really.
At least you were able to handle the alcohol early on.
I never drank responsibly and I always have had this problem.
Congratulations on four years
At least you were able to handle the alcohol early on.
I never drank responsibly and I always have had this problem.
Congratulations on four years
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Originally Posted by Robinz
Today is day one for me again. I have been drinking for 28 years and have had probably 30 or 40 day 1's.my husband is fed up with my drinking habits but this is how I deal with everything. I went a year without drinking but I went back. I have a difficult time dealing with things in my life. Alcohol has always allowed me to just forget the problem and move on.but I am getting to old for this.my husband is so reserved and angry a lot.the fact that I am sharing on this online forum would really bother him.so when I am attempting to recover and make a new life for myself I think it is expected that I do it quietly and secretly. All I know is I want it to work this time
I wish you the best.
Bob R
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