This is going to be a rough 5 days
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This is going to be a rough 5 days
My dad is here until the 22nd. He's an avid drinker. He always has alcohol in the house: vodka, beer, scotch... You name it. I've been sober 3 mos. I had a relapse last week and felt really disgusting while and after the drinking. I haven't had this temptation since I decided to quit. It's kind of upsetting. Thank you for listening 
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Well, you're braced for it & that's a good thing. You won't be caught off guard. Try to remember how bad you felt when you relapsed last week. You found out it just wasn't worth it. Some of us need those times to prove to ourselves there's no happiness or fun left in getting wasted. It brings nothing but misery and remorse. You don't need that feeling! Sorry you are being tested like this - but you can rise above it and feel proud of yourself for resisting.
Let us know how it goes. We care.
Let us know how it goes. We care.
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Thank you! I can go to the bars and be fine. My trigger is alcohol in the house, and I haven't had it here (except last week) since I quit. One thing I have going for me is that my live in boyfriend doesn't drink. Wish me luck!
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I live with an active alcoholic (my husband) myself. It's tough, I know. I can tell my husband not to leave alcohol within my reach, and that's been working. He can drink around me but he can't leave it unattended and I've been adamant about that. Perhaps you can do the same with your father? Keep his alcohol to himself and keep it out of your sight?
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Stick with your decision to live a life free from the influence of alcohol. You'll be happy if you do. Even if your not happy, just not having to go through all those distress emotions that can come from relapsing will be pleasant enough.
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I agree with some of the posters here, put your foot down, your house your rules. If you don't feel comfortable, don't allow it. He's your dad, but you're trying to get your life back, he should understand that. And don't dwell on the relapse, pick yourself back up and get back to work. 3 months is something to be proud of and you can definitely go longer than that. Best of luck!
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I was about 4 months sober, when my dad was coming out to Los Angeles
on a consulting job.
I offered for him to stay with me in my small house, a 1 bedroom with a
den that had a lovely Murphy Bed, but that the rules of my house were no
alcohol in my home, period. Dad, said he understood, that I was not to
worry since the people that 'hired' him were also paying for a lovely Hotel
Room for his stay, and he would keep his booze in his Hotel Room.
As Anna said, my house, my rules.
If I were you, I would tell my father, and if he chose to try and manipulate
me into giving in, I would just repeat over and over and over:
"No alcohol in my home."
J M H O
Love and hugs,
on a consulting job.
I offered for him to stay with me in my small house, a 1 bedroom with a
den that had a lovely Murphy Bed, but that the rules of my house were no
alcohol in my home, period. Dad, said he understood, that I was not to
worry since the people that 'hired' him were also paying for a lovely Hotel
Room for his stay, and he would keep his booze in his Hotel Room.
As Anna said, my house, my rules.
If I were you, I would tell my father, and if he chose to try and manipulate
me into giving in, I would just repeat over and over and over:
"No alcohol in my home."
J M H O
Love and hugs,
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Thank you all!! I made it through dinner. When I first saw him come home with the booze I was really upset. I had to go out to the back porch, drink some tea, and cool down. I put the vodka in the freezer as I won't be going in there for anything. I agree with desertsong, he can't leave it unattended. I wish I could say no alcohol, but knowing him he would throw a fit and say I've completely lost it. I'll just sit here and watch him. Jeez, no wonder where I learned this from. I guess I can turn it into a positive experience and remember what I don't want to be like when I get old. 
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