gordano

My manager has come in from out of state (he works in a separate office), and wants to take the team out for dinner. This obviously means everyone will probably be drinking as well. I really want to go because I want to socialize with my co-workers and build relationships with them outside of work (this is not my addictive voice speaking). I brought this up with my wife who has been extremely supportive of my recovery and she is against me going. I am not the type of alcoholic to drink in front of people. I only really drink by myself and at home. The last thing I want to do is drink after a big dinner, pay $5 per drink or risk a DUI (dispite being an alcoholic, I never drink and drive).

The question is this... Since I really don't think this situation will cause a relapse (just based on my past behavior when being in these situations), should I go against my wife's wishes and go to this dinner? Or should I respect her wishes and give her peace of mind? I think I know what I need to do, but I need someone to smack some sense into me.

doggonecarl

In your very first post, you wrote:

I am tired of constiantly disappointing my wife...

You know the answer to your question. Good luck.

aasharon90

How much sobriety time do you have?

What is more important to you? Is the
dinner mandatory?

gordano

I am tired of constiantly disappointing my wife... - nail on head

"What is more important to you?" - my wife, I can deal with losing my job, but not her

Thank you both for the help. This is exactly what I needed to get me to start thinking straight.

gordano

Well, I just called my wife, apologized, and asked her out to dinner the same name night my boss invited our group to dinner. I then emailed my boss and said I already had dinner plans with my wife. I feel a sense of relief now. Thank you for setting me straight.

Spinach

Hey was just going to suggest your plan . Make it a good one.
John.