Its been 11 days but I feel I am sinking again
sark,
if you're not eligible for affordable counselling, remember at least there's our Grief and Loss forum here - there's some reading I think you might find useful, especially in the stickies...
this website may help you access resources in your local area too?
2-1-1 Call Center Search
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if you're not eligible for affordable counselling, remember at least there's our Grief and Loss forum here - there's some reading I think you might find useful, especially in the stickies...
this website may help you access resources in your local area too?
2-1-1 Call Center Search
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First I would like to thank everyone for the encouragment. As for AA I guess doing the steps is what i need to start with. I have gone to AA many times but never did the steps. Do you need a sponsor to do the steps?
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Yeah....I'd recommend it. The steps are the solution....When they say that rarely you will see someone fail that thoroughly follows the path...That's the path...It worked for me. It can work for you too.
I found that for me, the craving to drink is my mind or body telling me it wants to feel better, unfortunatly, i keep mistakenly thinking alcohol is the solution. it rarely works for me, then i feel lousy for a day.
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Then you do it again...I call that repetitive ass whippings Dan...Someday you'll get tired of it....Or it will kill you.
True, the reason i posted that was to point out that craving don't necessarily mean we need alcohol, rather (at least for me) we just want to feel better. but thanks for the concern.
That’s fantastic sark! I think the steps are the way to go for you, I really do. Go to a bunch of meetings, every day if you can. Take at least a week (or two) to get to know the women in those groups. Then ask someone, with a few years of sobriety, if they would be your sponsor. Let them guide you through the steps. Just do your best. That’s all that’s required.
I’m optimistic that things are going to get better for you. Actually, I’m quite optimistic that things are about to get better.
Keep us in the loop ok?
I’m optimistic that things are going to get better for you. Actually, I’m quite optimistic that things are about to get better.
Keep us in the loop ok?
Give yourself some love and compassion. You've been through a lot. There's no easy fix, but there are solutions!! I agree with the counseling and/or seeing a doc or psychiatrist about depression, too. Get all the help you can - you deserve it! My psychiatrist charges $80-$125 per visit and it seemed like SO much at first, but in reality, it's less than what I would have spent in two weeks of drinking.
I feel for you - it's hard not to get sucked into the negative thinking. It's like a whirlwind that feeds on itself and it's scary because we imagine we'll never get out. The thing is, it's all just conditioned beliefs and fears, coming up for healing. So be good to yourself - get some rest - things really will get better......
I feel for you - it's hard not to get sucked into the negative thinking. It's like a whirlwind that feeds on itself and it's scary because we imagine we'll never get out. The thing is, it's all just conditioned beliefs and fears, coming up for healing. So be good to yourself - get some rest - things really will get better......
I understand what grief is like too. I lost my wife of 20 years about 5 years ago. The grief had a mind of its own, very powerful. It helped to talk to a grief counsellor if only to find out that what was happening to me was quite normal.
God bless,
MikeH.
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One thing I didn't know back then was you can get a temporary sponsor. It often turns into a permanent thing, but you can say at a meeting, to the general population, "I need a sponsor" and people may volunteer.
If I had know that, when I was getting sober, it would have made my life so much easier!
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