lostdotty

Hey everyone, hope your all doing ok.

I've been sober for the last 7 days, but today it's all I can think about is not having a drink and it's driving me mad, I don't want one but I know it would help me unwind if I was to have on.

It's not helped me watching my husband drink all weekend and where is he now the pub for one or two pints, he really don't understand the mental side of this non drinking me and he's made it clear he don't want it to have to change his ways but he's the lucky one, knows when to stop and always a happy merry drunk.

I wish I could be too!!

ARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

seanie1888

Hi Dotty,
Hang in there, is there something you you could do I.e walk or something that would shift it from ur mind for awhile?
Fight out today u'll feel great in the morning that you stayed sober

lostdotty

Thanks Seanie, I think that's the problem I'm knackered been for a long walk and I got to much to do and usually a few glasses of vodka n coke would see me through on a sunday.
I'm sure once all the chores are done and I've had a nice bath I'll be happy and glad to sit down with a cup of tea and watch some TV

stepping

Hey lost! I have been reading your posts this weekend! Welcome to SR I am glad you are here. Do me a favor and go back and read all your positive and confident posts you have been posting this weekend when sober. They were pretty inspirational for me. Don't throw away that confident sober girl for a drink today. Just don't drink today, k? You can do it Hang in there!

Seasidegirllau

Hey :-) I feel your pain, i know tonight my hubby will be having a few glasses of wine but i just cant, or i will be back to square one! Will be a cup of tea for me and maybe some chocolate. Need to think of some things you can do in the evenings to keep occupied. Stay focused hun, you are soooo not alone, we are all fighting this battle together. xx

Sapling

Hey dotty...I was a happy, merry drunk at one time. As time went on I turned into a miserable, pitiful, isolated lonely drunk. I didn't even want to live. I can't go back to that happy, merry drunk anymore....It's not possible. But one drink for me will take me back to that miserable, pitiful isolated lonely drunk I was...I know I don't want that. I went to a wonderful meeting this morning...We talked about having Absolute Faith....I know I won't pick up a drink today.

lostdotty

Thank you so much for your support>

I won't drink today, while I was hovering I had a few flashbacks of the bad times and it was waht I need to tell myself that's why I won't drink today.

I'm sure it will get easier when I adjust to my new sober life.

Glad to be here to have my little rant.

Sapling

It's a good place to rant and vent dottie...Have a good sober day.

Newatthis34

I hope you've stayed strong dotty, I've struggled a bit myself the past few hours. Had a stressful confrontation with someone and was rabid for a drink. I just kept repeating the same question to myself 'How will I feel tomorrow if I do this now?' I know I'd be so p*ssed off in the morning, even if I only had a 'few'. Day 7 for me too coming to a close. Can't wait to post tomorrow to celebrate my first full week!! Let's do it together!

artsoul

Hi lostdotty - Congratulations on achieving a week of sobriety! I had to remind myself (a LOT!) in the beginning where that first drink or two always lead. Some days I just kept watching the clock, thinking "OK, I can go another hour." You're doing really well, I think!

You talked about the desire to "unwind"...... what else would do that for you? Sometimes, giving myself permission to be lazy really helped, just allowing myself a day to not worry about anything. (And when all else fails, finding something to be grateful for really works, too!)

seanie1888

Sundays always tough day, but think how good we'll feel Monday morning fresh and glad we did not drink :-)

seanie1888

I like wat artsoul says about unwinding, I always drank at weekends to unwind, who was I fooling, my weekend was a blur and over in a flash and I was even more stressed start of week.
12 weeks sober today I'm really starting to love my weekends, biking, spending quality family time and chilling out properly, be strong lads

Spinach

Your doing brilliantly.
Pride is something you can give yourself.
Nos da.
John

Hevyn

lostdotty - Very proud of you for not caving. Congratulations on your one week (and yours coming up, newatthis )

Seanie's right - Monday will come and there'll be no regrets or remorse. What a relief.

Dee74

glad you got through that Dotty - awesome

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